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So tired of the drama...

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Submitted by klynn on Mon, 11/22/2010 - 8:55am

I'm worn out with how to handle my situation with BM. My SO sometimes has to stay out of town for work and if his kids are at our house that week, I take care of them. The last time we did this, BM caused a bunch of drama (of course she did). So, tonight my SO will be out of town and I figured we would handle it a different way to alleviate the drama. I told him to let BM know and give her the option. If she wanted the kids she could have them, if she didn't or couldn't I would do it. One would assume that this was the correct way to handle it. NOPE! She texts him back and says "I will pick them up because they won't want to spend the night with HER!" WTF?!?!

No matter what I do to stop the BS, it continues on. You know, I'd like to have an opportunity to build my relationship with SO, but at the rate we're going, I don't know if my sanity is worth it.

I've tried to "turn the other cheek" and not care what horrible things are being said about me or the picture that she's painting of me, but it's hard. Even though she's a raging idiot and bipolar, my feelings are still hurt. I hate living in a household where I'm repeatedly beat down, even if it is by someone who technically doesn't live there...she sure lives there in spirit because every time I turn around, THERE she is. Texting, calling, etc.... I don't think I can do this. Sad

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 11/22/2010 - 9:15am

she sure lives there in spirit because every time I turn around, THERE she is. Texting, calling, +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

Exactly.. I told my DH that BM is his "other wife" because it's true, he has to be at her beck and call and say "how high" when she says jump... he swears he does not, but whatever.. he DOES! To me, it's like everytime SS is with us, SHE is too, because I know that whatever gets said or done, while he is there goes right back to her.

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Submitted by klynn on Mon, 11/22/2010 - 10:02am

DaizyDuke~ SO doesn't jump when BM wants him to, very thankful for that. BUT, yes, everything that goes on in my house while skids are there gets taken back to their mother. It's like she's sitting on my flipping couch!! I can make a comment to my SO about "needing a vacation" and when the kids get home they tell their mother we were talking about a vacation (which we truly were not) and when he complains about her signing them up for expensive things (like $485 for volleyball) without asking him first, she tells him he should get his priorities straight. WHATEVER!!!

Maux~Yes, she's sucking me dry emotionally. I've definitely considered not taking the kids, even told my SO I wouldn't do it anymore. But then, I feel bad because BM is just looking for a reason to fight him for full custody (they have 50/50 now)and if she can show that he's not able to take care of his own kids, or provide care for them in his absence, I think it would make it easier for her to do. However, I'm certain this is horrible of me, but deep down I wish they only came to my house every other weekend....my life would be easier.