I am looking for helpful advice on how to deal with BM with as little drama as possible. The BM in my life is bipolar and acts like a 12 year old girl. Really. Calls names - even such names as "4 eyes"...that should give you some idea as to the maturity level of this woman. In a 3 year period I have only engaged in conversation with her twice and both times it was incredibly horrible and a huge scene. I ignore her as much as possible, but it's very hard to ignore completely.

For some reason BM feels it's her right to question everything that goes on in our home. She questions SO's methods of parenting on a regular basis. For the record, this woman has been arrested for flipping out on people in public and at home. She is bipolar and has caused many scenes in public in front of her children. However, at any point she feels it's her business to tell my SO how he's not doing what he should be. An example is SS9's homework. Every day SO asks SS9 if he has homework, sometimes he does and sometimes he says he doesn't.

I know in the whole scheme of things in this world that I shouldn't be complaining, but I'm just bummed today. I have this melancholy feeling about everything today. The situation with my SO and his kids, our financial situation, I work in sales and of course - that's in the toilet right now with the economy. I just cannot seem to bring myself out of this funk today. **sigh**

I have done everything I can to stop BM's crazy rants. I've stopped going to the skids events, I do not see her, I do not talk to her. I don't communicate with her at all. I never speak badly of her to her kids. If she's dropping the skids off or stopping by our house for ANY reason, I try to be inside so I don't have to see her. Apparently this is not enough. She has been asked and then "told" by my SO that she needs to let us know at least 15 minutes prior to her showing up at our house.