I will NOT be held hostage to another persons young children period dot.
My kids don't require me to get up in the mornings and get them ready for and of to school, they haven't in 3 years (that would of made them 9 and 15) now at 12 and 18 (you know an adult who actually acts like a mature person) They set their alarms, get dressed, usually check the weather to dress appropriately and leave on time to get to bus/school. Not once has either of them NOT done that, woke up too late or missed the bus.
SO's children especially ss can't manage his way out of a wet paper bag. Both are still young enough to need woke up, told what to wear and pestered to stop jacking around and brush their hair/tie shoes/brush teeth/get the hell out of the bathroom. SO also started a new job he has to be up and out the door 45 min before MY dad gets his kids to get them to school.
I raised my kids, I breast fed them, got up every night as infants, I managed weeks of night terrors(yes I would label that hell), illnesses, injuries, surgeries, and every morning from 1999- 2010 getting my kids up dressed and ready for and off to school. If I am already up there have been a few times I will give SO a sleep in and start his kids. For the most part NO, I have serious insomnia. It's been really bad since a mess up with refilling my meds and my clock is way off. SO decides he wants me to come to bed with him (he's been hinting and some adult time all night) what does he tell me when I try to get frisky, "you can have sex if you get my kids up and ready for school" he got a big F U I will not be held hostage to your kids, I did my time they are not my responsibility and I got out of bed. I'm going to read and drink some wine see if that helps my meds work any better. Such bullshit.