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Sick of the “I love you”s

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Submitted by LearsWife44 on Sun, 11/15/2020 - 10:11am

Another thing I HATE is the "I love you"s from SD20 to DH. Because EATS it up! SD20 would never do anything for anyone (INCLUDING HIM) that required WORK or giving something. It's all just WORDS. And he eats it up!! Me on the other hand, and small thing I do wrong he gets SO MAD and it turns into this big thing!!! But she is just the BEST because she says "I love you" every so often!! I'm soooo sick of being held to a higher standard! It's like I do SO much for you but she gets all the credit!!
anyone else??

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JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Sun, 11/15/2020 - 11:50am

My DH83 is a sucker for this stuff, too.  I don't get it.  

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Submitted by Peach on Sun, 11/15/2020 - 12:24pm

I think that they have learned that this is a way to control their fathers.  In any event, talk to him about it.  I know when I first moved in with my DH that he didn't show me any affection while the skids were here.  I think he thought that it would upset them.  I let him know that I didn't want to live like a second class citizen and he stepped up.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Mon, 11/16/2020 - 4:29pm

I don't know... parents and kids have a different dynamic and relationship.  I'm my husband's partner and we have expectations of each other that aren't the same as he has for his kids really.... it's not like he expects them to pay his bills for him on time etc..

I don't think it's a path to happiness to compare the two really.  But, you should judge your own relatiohship with him on it's merits.  Is he a harsh person to you frequently?  do you feel valued and respected by him...and I mean period.. not "in comparison" with his child?  Is it frustrating that he has such low expectations of his kids? I'm sure.. but again... it's a different relationship and comes with different expectations.

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Mon, 11/16/2020 - 8:43pm

I agree. Focus on your relationship and what's missing, completely separate from SD. Does he make time for you? Is he kind to you? With every other weekend, there should be plenty of time for you. If he is failing as a husband, maybe it makes you focus on SD when the real problem is you aren't getting what you need from him.