I don't think so!
Hubby has decided that nows the time to 'ask' to reinstate the 2 x week night sleepovers.. Which makes perfect sense considering he's working even longer hours to pull back from covid AND the grandparent has just completed on buying his former home, the one that's even further away, when she's the one there for handover. Add to that I've just started a new job, we are all quite stressed atm. It's truly not my circus if that's what he wants to do.. Yet this morning he asks can I write the email to ex, and do I think that I will be able to do any of the lifts /handovers? 'what?!? Er no not at the minute' as I'm scrolling for a childminder to cover days for me my current childminder let me down on with bd. Seriously sometimes these men just need a slap with a raw cod or something
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Be blunt with him and tell
Be blunt with him and tell him that it will ALL be on him, and that you will not be taking on any of his responsibilities.
Has c-19 hit him hard or has he always been this dim?
No
It's a complete sentence you need to tell him everytime he wants you to pick up his slack for his kid. Your hands are full. If he wants skid over, it's on him to do alllll the work.
Stay strong!
Conversation runs something like this
hubby: hey lifer33 i’m gonna have skid come over 2 nights a week so can you email my exwife for this and can you handle pickups? (He’s asking but reality is he made his mind and just wants to seem polite, didn’t give you any basic respect to discuss first his views
lifer33: no hubby i just started a job and busy
hubby: what am I supposed to do? Why are you so selfish?? You just hate her?
lifer33: I don’t appreciate you making executive decisions and ordering me to email your exwife or contact her when that is your job!!
stand your ground
Why am I so selfish? A better
Why am I so selfish? A better question would be -why are you incapable of taking care of ONE child single-minded, don't you think?
And to think so many women raise kids on their own...
My friend has 3 kids aged 8, 5 & 3. Her husband works in the mines so typical fifo worker (fly in fly out) meaning she doesn’t see him for months. Its a tough life but they live comfortably because of it.
God forbid a divorced man can’t manage to care for 1 kid or make arrangements
It's the double standard. If
It's the double standard. If a man just manages to keep his kids alive without the help of a woman, the majority of the population praises them for being such an amaaaaazing dad! If a woman doesn't have them eating home cooked meals, dressed and looking nice at all times it's "what's wrong with her?" Never mind that both may work full time (or in some cases neither works), men get a pass in child rearing.