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Lifer33's picture

Submitted by Lifer33 on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 6:13am

That is the last holiday I'm paying for ss to go on. 

He was a general pest , didn't want to do this that was bored. Then the jury is out of whether it was altitude sickness, or his general greed, I'm talking eating a for sleeve of salami a day, as a snack in-between meals... but lo and behold we paid a fortune to get to the top of europe, had to rush him back down,  and on route he managed to projectile vomit over all of us and a horrified bunch of skiers. 

This morning he's bored waiting to go back to bm but she's not home yet, romantic break, nice ! Dd is cheerleading to alexa. For absolutely no reason he's leaned over n whipped her twice hard with a pair of shorts right in the kidney area. Cue piercing scream and hysterics. I takes a look and yep it's like 2 corporal punishment whip marks across her back. Dh says apologise. I says apologise? Na, I don't care where you take him, get him out of my sight now before I do it to him. They've gone. Good bye.

Now in the greater context you'd think at nearly 14 he'd display some empathy and good behavior...

On the journey to the airport yesterday I read out our local police force statement with photo of dhs dear friend, thinking he'd won an award.... very sadly the news was he'd passed away suddenly whilst on duty. Aged 43 with a young widow and 2 young girls.  Dh is understandably absolutely inconsolable. It's been a terrible journey back, now this from the little cretin 

 

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CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 7:19am

At almost 14, he hit your young child hard enough to leave marks??? He would never be left alone or near my child again. At that age, he well knows better. And I agree...an apology?? Ummm...no, how about a serious punishment, even if it has to carry over the the next CO visit. 

Keep an eye on him with your kid. And watch that he doesn't get "sneaky" with his attacks on your child. 

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Fri, 04/14/2023 - 4:30am

But the ropes that do them up cut into her. I dont think he meant to mark her as he looked horrifued and upset. he was just being an absolute idiot. But I could definitely have done the same back to him if he'd have hung around a minute longer

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Submitted by Winterglow on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 7:53am

I suggest you take great pleasure in burning his passport, preferably in front of him.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 12:20pm

Agreed. 

Lifer33's picture

Submitted by Lifer33 on Fri, 04/14/2023 - 4:22am

The passport went with him back to bm, but I certainly shan't be paying for him to come anywhere with me again 

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Submitted by notarelative on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 8:11am

14 can be a miserable age for a trip. My own bio as a teen was so miserable one year that the next we left him home. The following year, he was asking if he could come, and was wonderful on the trip. So my vote is plan the next trip without him.

Leaving marks on sister is another issue and completely unacceptable and needs a consequence. 

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Submitted by ndc on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 8:19am

What punishment did your DuH impose on his little teenaged bully? Regardless, that kid would not be allowed near my child without close supervision. And he would not be allowed in my house unless his father was there and keeping an eye on him. HTDO.

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Fri, 04/14/2023 - 4:25am

He just looked sad and told him to apologise? That's when I said apologise? Get him out of my sight before I do it to him! 

I was sat right there, he did it in front of me as she danced past.

I'm not making excuses for dh but he'd already lost the will as he'd found out his friend had died then had to drive from airport in middle of the night. So he took the only option I gave him 

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 9:44am

I absolutely hate trips with skids. They are bored no matter how many activities you plan. The question is always "what are we doing next?". After already dropping ridiculous amounts of $ on an excursion they weren't impressed with. They would rather sit on their phones inside the room than do anything else. Or they expect DH to entertain them. SD was 11 and SS was 14 on our last trip to Mexico and it was not fun. We are buying a vacation home overseas and I am not looking forward to taking them. 

It would be a shame if your SS's passport got lost. 

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Submitted by CLove on Thu, 04/13/2023 - 10:47am

Yeah, I organized a trip to a beach town location where I went to college and lived for a while. Organized a few excursions for skid.

She spent the entire time on her tablet on the drive down. We got a room on the beach, she spent the whole time with her back to ocean. Only came out for food. We went snorkeling (not her thing thats ok shes not athletic AT ALL) and boogie boarding (STILL not her thing but daddy was doing it so...)

She wasnt my main issue however it was her daddy cakes. She was only 15 and had no clue. Still doesnt at 16 almost 17, but she is getting her outtings financed by her mother (her 21K USD judgment on "head injury) and her rich friends (who have JOBS).

So - no more obligation to go on any excursions with skid.