Trying to get back on my feet...
I have been MIA and not able to blog in quite some time. My last post has some background. Just going through a big life change career wise that took on an unexpected curveball. Been occupied with saying goodbye to my previous place of employment that had its own kind of grief to process. Plus worry about making ends meet while job searching and getting establishd someplace new.
The stress of interviewing and trying to get some kind of soft landing, plus other personal non step related issues thrown in between has been a hell of a lot.
I just started my new job this past week which has been stressful and overwhelming so far in and of itself. Havent been the new person in a decade. So its been a huge adjustment and been trying to get back on my feet..Hitting the ground runningn trying to navitage a whole new start. Needless to say , the SD and all her constant woes has barely been a blip on my radar this past year so far. I have had more than enough to worry about without all her garbage, Despite all my venting I have done on here, but in my personal life...its hasnt been given hardly any air. Which is nothing new and business as usual there.
As challenging as things have been for me and no matter how discouraged I have felt, I should at least feel proud that I am NOT like my SD, who would rather remain stagnant and wallow in her cesspool of a life polutted and littered with the results of her own shit choices. Granted, I could have chosen to just mope around feeling sorry for myself and its not like I didnt have a reason to feel down on my luck. But unlike SD, I also being an able bodied person like her,,,managed to at least brush myself off and refuse to flash the professional Victimhood card or make BS excuses used to leech off the state. THAT is one of various fundamental differences between me and SD, which also serves of one of many reasons why we dont mesh and never did. Just not the same people who share all the same values.
Guess what, SD? I didnt ask for my recent difficult situation or any others that had landed on my lap. I dont know about you, but I dont know anyone besides myself, who has a free ride on Easy Street all the time. Its tough out there for everyone ( not like she cares unless its all about HER.which she made painfully clear IMHO) At least I have been working through it which is more than i can ever say for her.
Even when I feel down and out, at least I can be glad that I had at least tried to be proactive in attempting to improve my sitiuation instead of digging in my heels like SD who just feels that the someone somwhere owes her something or another because of her plight, rather than get off her butt and do something about it instead of throwing a tantrum. I can at least hold my head high about that.
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That's the difference
Your'e a mature human being, shes not. I applaud your response to tough times. We all have them, that's universal.they pass, that's universal, too.
Best of luck in your new venture. You'll be fine, Amy.
Congrats on the new job! I
Congrats on the new job! I made a move changing jobs about 3 months ago, and i sympathize with the stress of being "new" again. It's getting better but often i am so busy and the mental load of doing and learning new things is so much that i forget what day of the week it is! But it does slowly get better. I think it takes a year or 2 to really feel like things are mostly "routine." You've got this!
Amy, you are a quality person. SD isn't.
Your life of adventure will continue. SD's in all likelihood will stagnate and not facilitate her becoming a person of quality.
Hopefully my prognostication is inaccurate and she actually overcomes her low level of quality. and negative inertia to actually become something and someone of quality.
Your new role and company recognized quality and you will deliver. That is what quality people do. They land on their feet and continue their quality life of adventure, accomplishment, and meaning.
Deep breaths and take care of you.
Thanks you for all the kind
Thanks you for all the kind words and hope all of you are well too. @Rags. SD turned 30 recently so I hate to be negative myself but the cold hard truth is that she has shown that she has never really changed or evolved. I have washed my hands of that so long ago. I know this might be mean, but when one of my brand new coworkers brought up the usual small talk..hey are you married, you have kids? Just a resounding NO for the kids part. It is true since I dont have bios. There have been reasons why I have more or less stopped "advertising" or merely mentioning that I am a SM. Seems no point opening up that big can of worms. I actuallu felt that same way nearly 10 years ago when I started my prior job. I mentioned very very rarely and in passing that i have an SD but left it at that. It was always too complicated so felt that was best. I dont think my former colleagues even remembered after all those years. Thats how little I ever brought it up. Honestly, I would rather no one knows I am related to this person or thinks I had one hand in "raising" her since its become an embarrassment No need to bring that baggage onto my whole new venture IMHO
TBH.. I do think opening up
TBH.. I do think opening up too much about our private lives at work.. is often not helpful.. especially if any of that is difficult to explain to outsiders.
Agree to not opening up much at work
Let's face it, some work situations are competitive. No sense giving anyone ammunition, like "she is pretty busy with her family".. They wouldnt t say this about a man but we all know women face discrimination.
Plus, people like to gossip about any anomalies in a person's life altho we all have them. I put out the most boring, sanitized version of my truth. "Married with 5 kids". Nobody needed to know the intense drama behind that statement.
As a supervisor, I was wary of anybody who shared too much personal info, it showed lack of judgement, imo
LIke if you have a lake house
LIke if you have a lake house.. and spend weekends there a lot.. don't let coworkers know.. they will assume you are there.. every "sick day" you take.
Or be FB friends with people at work.. they see all your party pics with your friends.. then you are offended when your boss and coworkers think that you are a "party girl".. when all they see on your profile is pics of you in a bikini with a drink in your hand!
Obv.. at times, I have been more open with certain long time coworkers.. but carefully...
Yep. Loose lips sink ships. So to speak.
TMI can cause a lot of damage to extended relationships and careers. Snippets are way too open for interpretation.
Zip it and don't give up the info goods except in clearly safe situations.