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DH told me that none of his family are ever coming over again**this includes sk's**

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Submitted by livinthedream on Thu, 06/17/2010 - 2:59pm

ALLEJUIA...Ive been praying for the moment for years when they would get old enuf & get a life of their own. The price I pay for all this is the silent war between DH & me. OH WELL! Its worth it to know that his offspring will be staying with BM where they belong!No more of feeding those suckers out of my own money or putting up with DH totally treating me as if I am invisible while they are visiting. My DH told me the only time you'll see them is for funerals...HA why would I bother to go see those disrepectful leaches. I dont expect to have dream weekends with DH, but I know for sure that I will not have to deal with them in my home anymore. I felt like rejoicing & jumping for joy in front of DH!!!

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Submitted by Stick on Thu, 06/17/2010 - 7:30pm

LivintheDream... while I can appreciate the relief at not having to deal with step situations, in-laws, BM etc etc... I have to ask...

What about your husband? And I mean this with all sincerity. How does he feel about this? I am assuming not good, since he told you you will only have to see them "at funerals". That sounds pretty extreme.

So I am reading your blog (and did not read backstory so I don't know full story I admit)... but no matter what... I feel somewhat justified in asking this...

You didn't like for your DH to make you "feel invisible". And now? Now you are making part of his life "invisible". It sounds like he has to hide it from you.

Be careful what you wish for and rejoice over. I don't know too many marriages that do well with things have to be hidden in order for the relationship to survive.

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Submitted by livinthedream on Fri, 06/18/2010 - 7:05am

This all happened as a result of me telling SD20,who came over without my decision in it....when I told her that its awkward that she was here & then she said WHY?? I told her cuz she is so disrespectful. TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE...I was not going to pretend that there was a lil white elephant in MY kitchen.I dont regret saying that to her in an assertive way. BM probably told DH that sk's arent coming over. DH didnt bother to try & fix anything between SD20 & I. Its fine with me....they need to stay with BM...so she can feed them & take care of their needs...NOT ME. I dont like my outlaws at all...they can stay where they are at too. DH is pissed but the good thing is that I dont have to hear it about BM & sk's!!! Among other crap that he always complains about.....its nice not to have to hear any of that.