SO has decided to go to the hearing. But I need to minimize my stress right now since I just had an embryo transfer.

The hearing is in front of a "juvenile committee" which serves as an alternative to municipal court for kids with no prior offenses. SS16 was picked up trespassing at 4AM in the next town. In addition he's been having all kinds of attitude and behavior problems over the last 6 to 8 months.

SO is going to tell the committee that SO believes SS has a problem and needs some kind of program to straighten him out, either community service, counseling, or both.

I don't think I can affect the outcome anyway, and I believe SO will speak up for himself and that we are on the same page.

BUT - SO, SS, and BM all seem to think that this committee can order that SS has to come back to live with us. I don't think they can, since this is a municipal court committee and has nothing to do with family court. Note - SO does in fact have full physical custody, but SS has been with BM for several months. BM can't take anymore and SS wants to come back with us as well. But SS hasn't changed, and so far it appears SO is holding his ground that SS isn't welcome back until he does. But I don't know what SO will do if BM just goes ahead and throws SS on the street.

So, I'm a little worried about what will happen regarding all the surrounding issues, not about SS's penalty for trespassing.

I haven't talked about it with SO, but I think he'll want me to stay home just to make sure I don't encounter any stress. Of course while it's going on I'll worry, but I probably won't stress out as much as being right there.

Any thoughts?

L