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LJZ's picture

Ok so today is my fiances sisters wedding.. and i am sitting here by myself because i didnt go. I didnt go because the skids are in the wedding. It would be the first time meeting anyone in his family and i didnt feel like getting pushed to the side in front of a hundred people i didnt know when his skids would be up his ass the whole time. Not to mention it is an adult only reception but somehow its okay for them to go. Am i wrong?
Also the skids show up last night dirty and in need of hair cuts for this wedding. I told my fiance to take the money for the skids hair cuts out of her child support. Thats what we give her a thousand a month for right? Shit like that? The lazy good for nothing BM knew that the wedding was today. I mean come on! The kids are always in clothes too small and dirty. What does she spend the money on? Am I Wrong????

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LJZ's picture

Thats the thing.. They are living in a house where the floor is covered in dog shit and the house is filled with mold. When she does wash the clothes she forgets about them forever then puts them in the dryer so they have that wonderful stench of moldy clothes.The kids sleep in the same bedroom as the mom and they dont have working water. They have to shower at the grandmothers house. But Yet she just bought a new car!

Sunflower1's picture

OP, if your step kids live in that deplorable of a situation your FDH should be calling CPS and trying for custody.

Disneyfan's picture

THIS

If you can't stand to attend a wedding with man's kids for a few hours, why bother marrying him? The way you describe mom's home, it's possible that dad may very well end up with full custody one day. What are you going to do then?

ms_peterson's picture

Um....Why does her fiance need to call CPS? Any adult who knows about this issue has the responsibility to call CPS. Either of them could do it.

And to the original poster...your fiance doesn't find it hurtful that you refused to go to a wedding because his kids would be there. You do understand that once you get married, the kids won't disappear, right? I'm shocked that a man would honestly put up with that. Someone else said they are not attacking you...but honestly, that's pretty horrible. If you don't want to be around his kids, you shouldn't be with him.

I can understand that once in a while we don't feel like having to have the responsibility of kids (and once you are a stepmom, you have responsibilities whether you want them or not), but the kids didn't ask for that. If we put ourselves in the position of being with a man with kids from a previous relationship, it's not the kids fault. You should be rethinking this relationship.

Disneyfan's picture

The fiance needs to call because those are his kids living in that home. He should do everything in his power to make sure they are safe.

If others call as well, fine. But he shouldn't sit back and wait for others to take action to protect his children. He should take the lead in this.