Thank you Acra and Llilac. We are both still sore today. Dan was off work for the Memorial Day holiday. So we took it easy. Still managed to grill some burgers.
I had some weird dreams last night but nothing scary. It does still feel unreal. I never saw the deer yet it must have hit the windshield on my side of the car at some point, the smoke and powder from the air bags choking me and lap belt tight on my waist and not knowing what happened. I just wanted out.

Just before the accident as we were driving we saw an ambulance with the name of our state as the company name. We said we had never see one with that name. We live near a very large medical center so not unusual to see different transport ambulances from other areas.
We had just passed the ambulance I think when the accident happened. I remember glancing at the driver and thinking to myself that the young man looked very much like my son's best friend who died a few years ago ( in a car crash). I was pretty shook up after the accident, sitting on the center highway berm in the rain as my legs were weak and I was still coughing from the air bag dust. Some nice people had stopped to help us and let me sit in their car while the husband helped get our car off the highway.
When the officer finally arrived and while he waited with us for the tow truck I was talking to him and my DH about this coincidence of seeing someone who looked like my sons friend just before the accident. DH thinks I should not have said anything, perhaps just the shock making me chatty.
It is not like the ambulance driver glanced my way or anything. And I often see people who remind me of my sons friend.
I guess I like to think in my mind that if anything about it is a connection, that looking to the opposite direction from where the deer came from and just being relaxed in my own mind having thoughts kept my body relaxed so when the impact happened I was not all tensed up. DH did not even see the deer until it was being hit by the car and he got the impact into his arms and shoulders from holding the steering wheel.

Maybe we could not see the deer because maybe it crossed the two lanes of traffic northbound side just between traffic or something that blocked us seeing it. Who knows. The day before a motorcycle collided with a deer in almost the same area the officer said. He said deer often get trapped in that area of the highway trying to get across and not being able to get around a tall fence. Once they had to shut down all traffic for a whole herd of trapped deer.

Unfortunately in the Northeast where we live deer on the roadways is a big problem. There are always dead deer on the roadsides. The state road department has people to pick them up. We live very close to where the accident happened. Near our house in the fields there is always a large herd of deer. We do not hunt them, but enjoy photographing them.

A couple summers ago I got some photos of a doe with three fawns. It is pretty common for them to have two fawns, but three is fairly rare.

The auto insurance agent called today so the claim is in the works. A total loss adjuster will look at the car. We can get a rental car tomorrow. DH will take my car to work tomorrow.

Guess I should have labeled this as off topic post.

But really...maybe it is relevant. Life changes in an instant. Wake up calls come in different forms. Maybe this is ours. I would like to think there are angels watching over me (my sons friend). ...perhaps. Second chances to enjoy life, live each moment. Keep the eye on the prize and let go of all that is just not important.