Just a guy thing?
Well, today is SD 2nd birthday. I have everything organized for the party, that will be at my BF's parents place tommorow. I planned it all, as he requested me, and yesterday me and BF went shopping for the missing supplies.
As I think I mentioned in my previous post, I bought her gift last saturday and I told BF what I had bought. Actually I consulted with him first, in order to see if he was ok with me giving her a trycicle (one of those baby ones, with safety gadjets and stuff, good for her age). As he's a little low on money, and as I did not want to overshine him, I told him we could say the gift was from the both of us, but I was expecting he would buy something more, something he choose for his daughter, even if it was a small thing. After all I didn't ask him for a dime, and I think he was planning on giving her something in the first place...
Apparently I was expecting too much. Today I found out that he hadn't bought anything more... I told him, very gently, that it would be good if she got something her daddy had chosen for her. And there he went to do some last minute shopping. 
It's not that she will know the difference, as we'll say that my gift is from the both of us, but it bothers me that he simply accomodated to the fact that I had already bought something for her, so he would have to worry more about it.
I know, it's probably just a guy thing...
And we found out this week that BM has let BF keep SD for her birthday because she had a dinner date tonight... She phoned BF asking if he could pick SD earlier than usual (normally he goes after dinner). Well, at least she called him, she could have left the kid with her parents instead. So, it's not so bad.
I'm going to the kitchen, to start cooking for the party. BF promised he'll help with the cake tomorrow. Ok, I had to ask for his help, but at least he didn't run from it.
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Maybe a guy thing...
DH always says that I'm better at picking out gifts. I think as she gets older, he'll contribute more. A lot of men (NOT ALL) are a little lost when it comes to toddlers and age appropriate toys.
BTW, my SDs birthday is today too!!!! She turned 11 though. We bought her bike as well, I picked it out, paid for it and DH went and picked it up...go figure....:)
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Is not very good at picking out gifts no matter who it is for. At christmas, the SILS picked out the gifts for the parents and he just wrote them a check. I take care of the rest of the gifts and get his opinions on stuff I am not sure about. I was very proud of him at christmas when he got my BS16 guitar hero and our BD12 a camera. My BD7 is getting a bike this spring from my BF.
When I was married, I did all the gift buying too. I think its a guy thing. You either have to tell them what to get or hope for the best.
It is wonderful of you to take care of the party for your SD2.
yup, it's a guy thing
He probably figured "she's got it covered, it's from both of us" end of story...none of this "maybe daddy should get a little something more ....with sentimental value. I learned....that's how my DH is. I pick the present, usually consulting him or not (if I know she'll like it), put "from both of us" and that's it.
I don't think it's a guy thing.
I think some guys are probably better gift-givers than others. My DH has always been pretty good about gifts. He's even good about remembering dates, bless his heart. In your BF's mind, though, no further gift was needed because the trike was from him, too. It probably never dawned on him that he should get her something else. Men can be very literal. He has no hope of meeting your expectations if you don't clearly communicate to him what they are. If you think he should buy her a gift, then don't tell him your gift can be from him. Next time say, "The trike can be from both of us, but I'm sure SD would love another more special gift picked out just for her by her Daddy."
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My DH has left all the gift giving to me...
I guess I always thought it was a guy thing. But like some of the others here said who's DH's spend a great deal of time and energy gift giving, maybe not. I have never known a guy to be into gift shopping. BUT that doesn't mean they don't exist
Sounds like yours just isn't one of them. That's ok. Mine neither. He makes up for it in other ways. AND yours shows great promise in that when you suggested he go out he jumped up and went. Good for him. Keep giving him pointers. He seems open to your good suggestions!
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