I’m back! I got a new job and it’s been like working 3.   Anyway.... gonna play catch up real quick before I really get into it....   SS is now 13. Unbeknownst to us until we got him this summer, he failed 7th grade and has been in and out of juvenile detention centers with pending cases (multiple), and still wets the bed.  He should’ve had another one against him while he was staying with us for theft but my husband decided to do the disciplining himself, which SS found hilarious and it was a huge waste of time and energy and SS ended up pretty much getting away with it and he knew it and ruining everyone’s summer . 

Moving forward... as we were on our journey to take him home to his mother (a week late because last week she was suddenly “out of town”) DH got a text saying they had to talk.  When we arrived she and her latest victim new husband #3 we’re outside waiting.  I did not get out of the car to enjoy the conversation, but DH filled me in.  

BM said SS had another case against him and depending on the outcome he may need other living arrangements.  (Cue suspicious glance to DH).  BM went inside and new husband #3 introduces himself to DH and goes into further elaboration about “spending money on SS he doesn’t have, new baby is coming, yadda yadda not safe environment, courts may not allow him to live there.  He needs to come live with us.”

DH was cordial, said he needs to be in the loop, had no idea about what’s going on with SS, wish he could’ve intervened sooner, BUT if courts deem it an unsafe place for him to live with younger siblings, why on earth would he be allowed to live with us and more younger siblings.  

Fast forward to today, DH called CPS to get to the bottom of things and yell at someone for not letting us know our children could be in danger.  Turns out there’s no other case.  It very much Seems like BM is finally ready to give DH custody because she needs more room for new baby and doesn’t want to deal with the delinquent behavior.  

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