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Step talk equivalent for DW

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Submitted by Lucky red on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 1:01am

This site is great. So glad I stumbled upon this. It's great the read about the experiences of others and learn from the wisdom of those who have walked a similar path to the one I am trying navigate.

I wonder if my partner would benefit from something similar? Does anyone know a good ST equivalent for all the DW/DHs out there??? 

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Submitted by Kes on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 2:06am

Pleased that you found us - I too have derived great advice and support from the site for the past 9 yrs.  There are plenty of bio parents' sites for general parenting chat, but there is not, so far as I know, an equivalent site for bio parents - ie ones who are part of a step parent set-up.  I think that the main reason there isn't, is that bio parents often do not see a problem - they think that however their sprogs treat us, and however they behave, we should just suck it up.   One of our (ie us step parents') biggest problems is often the attitude of the SKIDs' bio parent/s - they determine the rules and boundaries for their sons and daughters, and these may be non existent (usually for fear that their ickle snowflakes will not want to come round any more) or otherwise unacceptable to us.   

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Submitted by Lucky red on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 2:52am

I did think that, but I figure being the bio parent in a 'step' relationship has it's own unique challenges, and I was hoping she could learn from others in HER position. In saying that, I do think she would benefit from reading step talk as well 

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Submitted by Chmmy on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 5:45am

When i found steptalk and starting implementing some of the step parent strategies I learned here....disengagement was the most noticable,  my husband googled disengaging step parents and he learned a lot and became more supportive of me. That is, until he figured out how much I do and how hard it is to be a full time parent to 4 entitled brats that he created.