DS spends the day with BM....
Skids were with their BM this weekend... and so was my DS on Saturday. Weird, I know. YSD was begging me for two days to let him come there. I had very mixed feelings about it, but in the end I knew he would be safe. BM and I have been getting along, superficially I think, as I know their are still occasional things being said to the girls. Nothing like before though. I ended up making the decision based on 2 facts:
He would be safe
She has no choice but to in trust her children with me. It is not exactly fair of me to say... No, you can't touch, see, or talk to mine. Now, if I didn't think he would be "safe" then, no, I would not have let him.
All went well, except his sister's fought over him the whole time. That was the last thing I said to BOTH of them before I left... No fighting over him. BM put them in their place though! Good for her! They will start to fight over him in our home, but know I will NOT put up with it so it ends QUICKLY. They generally fight more when BM is around, or when they are with her though, I have NO clue why, but they do. So I doubt it will happen again in the near future, because I think it is absolutely RIDICULOUS to fight over a human being! Let alone my son.
I have to say it is nice though. Never in a million years would I have thought BM and I would be to this place. Is it perfect? No... Are we BFF's.... No, but it is nice!
BM and I have never fought... we just never spoke. She would say horrible things to the kids though. I in no way think we are above going back to that point, because we have already gone back to that point once, but we are working on it, and it is nice while it lasts, however long that may be. Hopefully for good!
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I'm glad it went good! It's
I'm glad it went good! It's not weird, BM kept DS and DD for me while DH was in the hospital!
Kudos to you for trying and for the facts that you based your decision on!
"If you don’t adapt and look within yourself, you’ll just keep wading in that stagnant poisonous pool of stepparent hell." author: BitchBitchBarbie
*eyes glazed over with utter
*eyes glazed over with utter amazement* that's so incredible it's almost surreal! kudos to you gals and Here's hoping that I get to that point someday.
And Jen, everytime I see your quote I crack up. It's so funny I got quoted!
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
I remember always wanting to
I remember always wanting to go with my step brothers until the invite came. We ended up sitting in an unfinished basement on a picnic table the entire time. boring. Years later I asked my mom why she let me go. She told me she knew how it was there but I needed to see it for myself. It was awful. But I'm glad things worked out for you.
Because my girls are adults,
Because my girls are adults, the opportunity would never present itself. BUT...
I know this sounds extremely sophmoric, but I never even let my husband's x speak to my gson. It feels like a violation of my personal space... I don't want him to get cooties. I ran out of that spray in the 80's.
oh man I got a good juvenile
oh man I got a good juvenile chuckle from that! "i ran out of that spray in the 80's" teeheee!!
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
I already let my DH know
I already let my DH know that when we have children of our own his X will never touch my bio child(ren). He called me immature but the fact of the matter is...I see how she treats her kids...and I wont put my child in an awkward situation. I don't even want my skids in that situation, but that's out of my control.
And I know where you're coming from totalybogus as far as the invasion of privacy. And maybe I am being immature but it's bad enough I need to share my skids, my last name (because she wont change it for the main reason that she knows it gets under Dh's skin) and occasionally my husbands attention with her. (and this yr it's looking like I'm also going to have to share my X-mas over my SIL's with her as well because she says it makes her feel like she's still part of the family. Which...she's not. But it's the only way she'll let us see the kids since it's her time with them.) I'm not also going to share my bio kids with her.
childish or not....I don't wanna share anymore with her.
But I give major Kudos to Mean! Way to be the bigger person!! I'm happy it all worked out for you!