So both SD's have an important event coming up. I asked BM if she wanted me to bring the girls to her, so she could help them get ready. Telling her I would be more then willing but thought I would ask her first. She replied with, why don't we both help them, we are both moms.

So we will both be helping them get ready. I thought this was really sweet, and just wanted to share a good moment.

This comes out of SD14's mouth a LOT! I use to tell her "You and SD17 are two different people", but truth be told, it's NOT fair.

When I decided to disengage, I only disengaged from SD17. For some reason, DH will talk to me and take my advice and allow me to help raise SD14, but not SD17. SD14 knows this, and is fine with it because she knows the benefits of me being involved. However, it really isn't fair.

I have, until recently, always overlooked my SDs' faults, because really where does the fault lay? In my eyes it really isn't their fault. Children will do what they can get away with, it is their nature. It has always been easy for me to not "hate" them, because I keep this in mind. My stepdaughters (specifically SD17) is the way she is, because DH and BM allow it. Along with SIL and FIL. She feels entitled... because... she IS. They both feel the world is revolved around them... because in their world... it is.

I was talking to SD14 the other night, and she of course was BORED! Ohh what else is new. Anyway, I asked her, well what do you want to do? She couldn't come up with anything so I said we could write notes back and forth like the good old days. She said "Those were the good old days." (When SD14 was younger and couldn't talk about how she "felt" we would write little notes back and forth and she would tell me) She then disappeared on the internet.