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So here is the scenario:
i haven't been on this site for awhile trying to not vent or even care because it's easier than being angered or worry constantly.
i have been w/ my bf for going on six years doing her job while she ran men in and out of the kids lives until recently getting married to an alcoholic w/ a bad temper and extensive dui problem. but now she has just pushed it so far i am having more than a problem keeping my cool as i always have before.
where to start:
okay upon picking up the kids in a public location where she as always showed aggression w/ her behavior by blocking our car in by not even parking in a parking spot but right behind our vehicle while i as always remained silently in the car was screaming at my bf "get your bitch out of the car i'll kick her ass too" in front of the kids while her new husband threatened to kick my bf's ass.
i am on the emergency contact list w/ the school as i always have been since moving back to where the kids live yet after someone turned her into cps which we were wrongly accused of the kids were told that if i pick them up from school ever again on the mondays that they have court appointed 4hr visitation w/ us she will have me thrown in jail which would be a federal offense because she told them she will have me charged w/ kidnapping. meanwhile her new husband who is NOT on the emergency contact list or on any list is not suppose to be able to pick up the kids does pick them up when they aren't taking the bus and staying at their maternal grandparents. also their father who works 30 on and 2 wks off has been told that if he is not there during those court appointed mon visitations they will not have their visitations at our home at all because the visitation is w/ him not me.
keep this in mind; her, her husband, the two kids, and her fathernlaw, a guinea pig, cat and two dogs live in a single wide in a trailer court in what was a 3bdrm 2bath until the halfass renovation to one of the bathrooms for the daughter to have her own bedroom. i say halfass because they took the tub out and left the toilet which is functioning and the vanity and put a bed in and painted it and this is an acceptable standard w/ cps. every other weekend they also have her ss there.
here is what is beyond infuriating about the cps issue:
a month after cps called and visited her home they still had not contacted my bf (the FATHER NOT the sperm donor or paycheck) so he called cps to make sure all was okay when he was told by the cps lady that not only was there no problem w/ the toilet and vanity in the bedroom but she wished she had had a bedroom like that when she was a kid. Also she informed him that she didn't contact him because her boss told her she didn't have to there was no need to. So instead of evaluating the differences in living conditions for the kids between the two homes they just called good. Keep in mind our home the kids both have their own rooms and a bathroom they share. upon speaking to his ex about the kids a couple days later and her not aware that he had only talked to the investigating cps lady a couple days prior for the FIRST and ONLY time she informed him that the cps lady had no problems w/ that toilet issue in the bedroom and told her upon that visit that she had talked to the father and would be dropping the case; hmmm she lied go figure. but yet they act offended when people have the opinion that most cps and child support workers are nothing more than disgruntled exes. this is how our tax dollars are spent. paying people that are suppose to care about the safety and well being of the children involved but aren't; rather they are carrying out their own revenge in my opinion. and this is perfect example. not only that, the ex stated that she had been given a copy of the complaint therefore knew that WE called her in to cps which WE did not and refused to provide us a copy of the complaint she supposedly had.
I have been taking her and her sister's abuse via nasty email's, texts, and phone calls all these years w/ no retaliation on my part. Yet her sister was just posted in the local paper w/ her new husband because they had been arrested for burglary at a local WalMart; and had told the kids it was a misunderstanding. Funny thing; do people get arrested and a $5000 bail set for a simple misunderstanding? I have written to the main branch of CPS to no avail, the mayor of our city w/ no response, and anybody else that will take a good look at this ugly situation of injustice to no avail.
Please keep in mind that my bf had faithfully paid his child support w/ no complaint yet her and her husband are continually broke yet he works full time at a job he has had for approximately 10 years she works and receives almost $700 a month child support and her fathernlaw draws retirement. Between the three adults living there they own 4 vehicles a boat and four wheeler but we are continually having to purchase things the kids need for school etc because she and her husband are always broke.
Where is the law and justice here? Because I don't see it! Nobody cares about anything other than the money and the ability to use the kids as weapons against the father and then my tax dollars that pay the people that are suppose to protect the kids are protecting the parent that puts the kids through all this!
It's sickening!