I havent blogged before have only posted a few forum topics in the past but have read alot of info on here that has helped me alot and I have to thank all of you for that!!

I have 2 BS's and my SO has a BS as well. SO and I have been together almost 2 years and I am now 18wks pregnant with our first child together so am a little emotional. I guess I just feel like I need to get all this out before I start losing my mind.

When SO and I first met we had a fabulous time, SS11 was a bit standoffish but I guess considering BM hadnt moved on it was a little difficult to accept a new woman in his dads life. I get that. BM left SO and his parents allowed her and SS11 to move in with them, I believe she lived there for about 6 months. When I first met MIL and SFIL, they told me they didnt like BM all that much but did what they could for SS11 as he was their only grandchild (SO is an only child). We have our kids on the same weekend so it started out that we would spend non child weekends together and child weekends separately with our respective bios. Easter weekend is supposed to be a dirty weekend away for us, but SS comes as well, and throws a tantrum when we get to our destination because SO will not let him sleep in the double bed with him (SS was 10 at the time) SS calls MIL and fuck me dead MIL and SFIL turn up the next day (so much for a dirty WE away). SS pretty much does what ever he can to ruin my weekend including locking me out of the unit (i didnt know that until about 3 months after) Things started to get serious and we talked about moving in together so in order to make the transition a little smoother we decided on spending 1 night on the child weekends together so that the kids could get acquainted and hopefully things would work out. This is where it all started to turn to shit. SS11 didnt want to do that, SO had mentioned that just prior to us meeting SS11 didnt want to go to SO's EOWE but BM enforced it, kudos to her, but since she was enforcing it he just wanted to do what he wanted with ddaaaaadddddeeeee which did not include spending time with us and getting to know us. So in September last year we moved in together. We invite MIL and SFIL to dinner on a fairly regular basis but they decline. (Not once in 2 years have we ever been invited for dinner) The EOWE custody is erratic, SS doesnt want to come and no one seems to want to enforce it (SO is just as guilty of this!)but he has to have a room of his own here so he feels "comfortable" when he does decide to grace us with his presence. September school holidays BM takes SS11 to thailand for 10 days including SO's weekend when he gets back he is out of control. Custody EOWE is more erratic than before with SS electing not to come if there was nothing in it for him instead spending the weekends with MIL and SFIL. Communication btw SO and BM have completely broken down and BM refuses to speak to him at all even at SS sport matches. SO fights with MIL constantly about interfering with his scheduled weekends and all MIL can say is that SS is her only grandchild and that she will do everything she can to protect him (from what I am not sure). SS's bday is in November, SO goes, we are not invited. Christmas rolls around, SS has barely seen his father but requests and ipod ($360) we are strapped for cash as i only work part time and SO is a contractor and work is slow over the xmas period. So I am supporting SO as well as my kids so that he can make sure CS is paid on time. MIL rings up SO and tells him BM is doing it tough and could he help out, at which point he says no, midnyt is actually supporting me so I can make sure CS is paid, BM gets her CS every month and if thats not enough tell her to get a better job. We invite MIL and SFIL to come for xmas lunch, the answer yet again is no we cant, but they go to BM's instead "for SS" SO had his 40th bday party SS attends but talks some of the wives (still friends with BM) into calling BM and arranging to take him home that night. SO knows nothing about this until the party breaks up and SS is at the door with all his bags packed. Mothers day, MIL and SFIL are invited to lunch with my family. MIL initially says yes and then changes her mind "because they always do something with BM on mothers day, for SS's sake" so we compromise and they come on the saturday instead which was supposed to be about my YBS as its his bday. MIL has her bday and we are still not invited to have dinner, BM takes SS and they have dinner for MIL's bday, SFIL has his bday, same deal. This weekend is fathers day, SO calls SS during the week at which point SS says "I am not coming, you never spend any time with me" SO says "so I am not going to see you for fathers day?" SS says "nope" and hangs up the phone. Havent heard a word since, not even from his mother. OBS bday is this month, SS will not be invited. SS bday in a 2 months then xmas after that, wondering if he will he start coming to see his father just so he can request what he wants?

I am not sure how to feel about this entire situation, clearly my hormones are running rampant with the pregnancy but i feel incredibly sad and angry. i know there is nothing I can do about this, its not my family and none of them will listen anyway.

Thanks for letting me get all this out!!