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Submitted by -Mimi- on Wed, 06/12/2013 - 9:14am

"This level of insanity belongs within a mental institution"
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We receive a call to say that "F" (the eldest of the two children) had separated off from the youth group hiking activity - following an apparent argument with a friend, where she decided to run into the dark woods alone. A search team of youth leaders - including the bishop & police scoured the woods for over an hour whilst we frantically raced to the scene. Thankfully she'd been found by police helicopter & was brought to the police station - where we met her, Throughout questioning she remained unrepentant & an apology has yet to be proffered. I told my beau that things need to change. I truly wish they'd have sectioned her because then she'd get the treatment and attention that she needs. In the meantime - such antics will continue.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Wed, 06/12/2013 - 9:47am

How old is this child? That would be very scary. I can't believe she wasn't sorry for all the trouble and stress she caused.

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Wed, 06/12/2013 - 11:31am

She's 15 and lacked any kind of sorrow or embarrassment - even for her younger sister who witnessed the all out panic of everyone around her. The lack of remorse surprised the policeman who then highlighted that every time they 'run lights' in an emergency - they're putting their own lives at risk.

Also, their procedure is to also inform social services because she's a minor - which'll add undue strain to her father, should social services wish to follow up.

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 5:10am

I've expressed the same concerns to her father. He takes it very personally.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Wed, 06/12/2013 - 2:50pm

Oh yes. Most are. I know for a fact stepdevil14 was an attention whore at 12 and has just gotten worse over the last few years...

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 7:21am

I completely agree - children are ego centric by default so it doesn't bode well to feed the monster. My theory is that whatever parents fail to teach their children - whether that be in the form of correcting them or otherwise, they either learn from peers or become adults with personality disorder issues.

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 10:06am

It is vulgar & creates inner conflict within me because it's difficult to see someone else's pain and discomfort get attention; and for them to continually repeat the negative cycle.

Growing up, I was encouraged to be confident; & was continually that told that there are positive & healthy ways of drawing attention (i.e. through demonstrating intelligence versus other degrading means). The rule was that you do not actively seek it. And when it occurs as a result of having accomplished something positive - a good grade for instance, you graciously accept the recognition and carry on without becoming big headed. That lesson has served me well.

It's empowering not to need the validation, attention and energy of others to feel good. Don't you agree?

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Submitted by Crazy_in_Ohio on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 7:30am

There was a girl in high school that pulled this same stuff; her family had to go to court and had to pay back the rescue money. It wasn't cheap.

The last I heard she went to military school and was on the straight and narrow.

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 9:23am

Thankfully and luckily we will not have to attend court or pay back the rescue money. Here in the UK the police etc are paid for by taxes.

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Submitted by -Mimi- on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 9:34am

Hello there

Thankfully there are no associated costs for the rescue.

I wish she would publicly apologise, however that's unlikely. I'm comforted by the fact that her issues are now public knowledge, she'll continue to burn her bridges till her support is diminished & that in years to come, she'll get a harsh awakening.

Also, she'll leave home at some point (likely when my beau & I have children together).