Just mad
OK now I just plain mad, no livid. VENTING here bfore I just rip somebody's everloving head clean off!!! Breathe,1,2,3 screw it that's far enouhg. I turn the big 40 tomorrow-yay I survived this long-woohoo. My sister and mothr are up to something for my birthday this weekend-go girls!! In the mean time, my daughter won tickets for me to a comedy show. The reservations were originally for tonite but with bf's schedule I didn't even ask him to go (tired of the rejection-my hours, don't feel like it, yada yada). So, I asked my sister. Then, we talked about it this morning and basically decided we werent going--too late for us way early risers and we're going to go out to eat or something instead. So, I emailed the radio station to have them give my seats to someone else explaining about my hours and how far away I live etc. They responded to me offering either Friday or Saturday night seats instead--yes, they rock!! So, I picked Friday thinking that bf can go--one problem--my bad 2.
Since the school told him and moomoo they will be needing a decision about holding sd8 back in 3rd grade again by March he is in a snit because his hours at work are keeping him from being with them long enough EOW and getting homework etc accomplished and having to let them stay with their mom to see if her grades improve-he gets them Friday evening and puts them back on a bus for school then back to moomoo's house. So, he texts me back and says he doesn't know if he can go; he'll have the kids. Mmmm, ok - no problem solving capabilities here? Won't ask moomoo to keep them to make my 40th happy memorable instead of a teary event? Can't be parted for just one little ole day from his darling snot-brats who get broken teeth or stitches in their tongues because beloved poppy is SO attentive to them on the computer at one end of the house while they beat the $#it out of each other at the opposit end???
Ok, I'm better hopefully there will be some gal pals showing up Saturday to toast with and talk bad about him (nah wasted time there) just celebrating life and what there is in it--just fine for me.
*No gratitude? only attitude? thanks, but I'll pass**
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Soooo....was he planning on
Soooo....was he planning on doing anything for you on your birthday???
Knowing him Rainbow-he was
Knowing him Rainbow-he was probably going to call t good enought that he would come over on Thursday and spend the night?? I really don't know-and I havent gotten a text from him since earlier this a.m. Just too sad to have to draw pictures for a man about things like that.
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That's not right. I'm sorry,
That's not right. I'm sorry, it must feel really hurtful to be crapped on for your birthday, which SHOULD be special. God knows for the skids birthdays they will break their back and the bank to make it special. I'm sorry hon.
Rainbow, my kids are the
Rainbow, my kids are the best kids ever
and do deserve the best when I bend over backwards and I try really hard nt to break the bank just simple and hopefully memorable too. BUT the double-edged, catch-22, flipping f---off BF thinks the sun rises and sets on their hineys. Guess I know how 3/17/10's gonna play out not too mention 2/14/10--yay go me what a winner I picked. My bd15 has been being paid to watch his kids LOL to earn monies for MY birthday present. Too flipping bad he can't get a clue 
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I'm sorry he is being an ass
I'm sorry he is being an ass about your birthday and I understand how you feel.
BUT, if I knew that my child might be left back and I needed to do everything I could to get him up to speed, I would do it.
((((HUGS))))
He already leaves them at
He already leaves them at mom's all week-another day would have killed him?? I'm sorry I know I sound hard and it's my fault for not accepting fully that I won't be first to him no matter what or how old they get and move on to their own lives. I only ask him for a few days in a year-birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines Day-the special couples type days that don't have to be kids-centered all of the time-do they? Just crying now because I can't believe Im so stupid and weak to not just walk-on and meet a new one who might see things a bit differently.
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I know what they're
I know what they're planning....wanna know? Too bad! heheheeheheheh }:) luv ya!
Maybe you can meet someone this weekend? Are you going w/CJ to the comedy thingy Fri nite? I would! Screw him!
YOU are such a bad egg!!!
YOU are such a bad egg!!! Hugs and much luv to ya right back-now you gonna tell me??? No, ok guess I will let it be a SURPRISE, SURPRISE, SURPRISE---LOL!!!! I would love to meet someone new on any weekend--this one, next, hell many weekends from now, but I just ask that he not be a big ole stinking kids up hiss ass craw turd >:)
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Now way! You deserve to feel
Now way! You deserve to feel special and valued, every day, not just your birthday. Don't start the guilt thing with yourself and rationalizing it. You deserve to be treated well by a man whether or not he has kids.
Yes this man has kids, does that mean he gets to treat you badly? Are the two mutually exclusive? I think not.
Oh I understand now. It
Oh I understand now. It sounds to me like he is being so selfish then. Try to enjoy your birthday. Don't let him ruin it
Now I am just waiting for
Now I am just waiting for the other shoe to fall-I told him I never see him but rarely and never for special occasions. That I officially feel like less than second class. By responding with ok to his text this morning I was trying to blow it off-explaining that I knew he wouldn't go or be able to or whatever but I guess I came off as angry telling him I'd figure something out. Really???? Your gf's 40th birthday and you can no how no way find a way to do something special for her at all?!?? AND why am I explaining this to a grown man??
Rainbow, I cry because hindsight says I did this to me and my kids by moving us on the thread of no real promise of a future with him and thanking my lucky stars that I moved us back out and on our own and I can sit outside the "box" and decide my future based on what little I get while he sits around feeling "comfortable" with our status. Me not suspecting that really someone on the side (why DID you change your cell phone to your own plan?!??) I never see you much--who does? But thankfully I have not succumbed to stalking to see if he really is keeping all of these hours or "keeping" something else.
**No gratitude? only attitude? thanks, but I'll pass**
I only have one shot at a truly great life and not one spent waiting for a man to notice me, want me, love me and be true to only me. 2010 is the year of "me" **
Yeah you don't need this
Yeah you don't need this crap on your milestone birthday. I say go and have a great time with your friends and family and let him make an effort to do something nice, and if he doesn't, EFF HIM and he's a dog.
No man needs an explanation that a girl wants to feel special, and loved on her birthday!
Make a great time for yourself on your day and enjoy it. Chalk the rest up to a learning experience and don't beat yourself up with it. God knows you've suffered enough.
I must say, as clueless as
I must say, as clueless as my DH is, one thing I have NOT had to deal with is the whole birthdays/holidays thing.
If we have SD on my birthday or a "couples" holiday or anniversary or whatever it may be, he has no issues leaving her at his moms or my moms or taking her home early, or whatever.
He gets that I have only a few days a year where my needs and wants come first, and he doesn't ruin that for me.
~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~
Wife-you are lucky for
Wife-you are lucky for sure!! I don't get why I don't rate? He says he loves me?? Hmmm I think he's just stuck betweena rock and a hard place with the care of his hellions (oh I mean darling little people-they are JUST kids) and he's trying not to bite the hand that might allow her daughter to be paid to watch them for him. This is the same fella who doesn't put my name or any salutation on the outside of a card (envelope). He says that he signs the card shouldn't that be enough?? Oh well, what is is-I will do as I see fit with what I get.
**No gratitude? only attitude? thanks, but I'll pass**
**I only have one shot at a truly great life and not one spent waiting for a man to notice me, want me, love me and be true to only me. 2010 is the year of "me" **