"Sometimes I wish that someone had just told me to run the other way. Would I have listened? Probably not. I couldn't see his bad side then, we didn't date long enough really. He has two major drawbacks. First, he has a bad temper and a personality that is often patronizing, know it all, and abrasive. He shows little emotion.. sadness or what have you all looks the same as anger- usually. When he is not acting that way he is much better and over the years I have found my way with his calmer side and we manage.
Aside from the hotheadedness and no holds barred (verbal crap) when he gets angry, he is overly sensitive to everything anyone says. It simply wouldn’t work if I ran around spewing off and indulging whenever he pissed me off. No, I have to bite my tongue ALL the time. If I ever give it right back to him, he just talks meaner. He shouldn’t get to be thin skinned when associating with him requires everyone else to have crocodile skin and no feelings."
This person's first 2 paragraphs define my situation with my DH! I am not responding to her post because the story changes from there... In the beginning, he appeared to be fun and often teasing me. Now he claims that all his teasing holds "a little grain of truth", and that he is trying to "teach" me but I am too "f#@%^d in the head" to get it...sorry for the language , just repeating his comments of earlier today. Our fights however, are mostly about my ds24, dd21 and ds18 and the fact that they have not responded and learned to love or even like him much. They liked and respected him ok in the beginning, but their feelings have changed for the worse. I have tried to tell my DH that if they didn't hear us fighting about them not liking him, and the name calling that goes with it,that it would get better. Today the fight was all about how he gave in and tried for the past 2 to 3 weeks to not fight and that he is the only one who had to put out any effort.They didn't and I didn't make them... how can I make my kids change their minds about this man when he keeps pushing us all away? I am so stuck in the middle. The story is so much longer than this....this is my first time here...