BD1 wasn't feeling good today so I picked her up early from daycare and came home with her. DH was home when we got here. I brought up to DH that when SS7 gets home from school he needs to talk to him about stealing. DH immediately got irritated, told me he'd handle it, and walked out of the room. I dropped it and we had a peaceful afternoon.

DH went to pick SS7 up from daycare at 5pm and brought him home. SS7 went directly to his room without looking up and without saying hello. That usually means he's been in trouble at school. DH came in, kissed me, kissed BD1 and said he was going to SS7's room to have a "talk".

Ten minutes later, DH comes out and starts cooking dinner. Curiosity got the best of me and I asked what happened. DH tells me that SS7 didn't know who's stuff it was and that he found it in his room. I reminded DH that SS7 is known to lie to get out of trouble and that he should at least have to apologize for stealing them and replace them with his allowance. DH cut me off. DH said it's been handled and that's the end of it, he's not discussing it further.

I'll be damned. I pressed further. SS7 doesn't even get a slap on the hand? No spanking? For stealing?? BD1 touches something and DH will yell at her until she cries and she's only ONE!

I lost it. I told DH that I will not live with a thief or a liar. Then DH lost it. I hate his kid, blah blah blah. We pulled SS7 out of his bedroom and he admitted to taking things that weren't his. He held with his story that they were in his room.

DH must have been so blinded by his rage that at this point, it just didn't matter. It was my fault and he let me know it was my fault. We both yelled. He screamed so loud it scared BD1 to death. At which point, I picked her up, told him to leave, and went to her room to rock her.

DH and SS7 left, clothes and gear in tote, more than two hours ago. He sent me a message saying they were staying at his mother's house for the night and we'd figure out the rest tomorrow. I told him I was calling our real estate agent in the morning and putting the house up for sale, and in the afternoon I will be meeting with my father (who is also my lawyer) about what we should do about arrangements for BD1.

It's make or break time - I just don't think that I can handle having SS7 in my house any longer. His behavior is going unpunished and uninterupted. It's a path to no where good and I can't have my kids around this. And I can't seem to make DH see this.