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Tears of anger or laughter?

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Submitted by newcstep on Fri, 03/24/2017 - 8:36am

SD8 hasn't been doing her homework at her mom's house, and her grades are suffering. DH had a 5 min conversation with SD about the importance of doing homework, that it is HER responsibility (no matter which house she is at) to make sure it gets done, and showed her how it is impacting her grade. He explained that he doesn't mind bad grades as long as you are trying your best, but not doing homework is not trying. He made a comment that he would need to think about the possibility of consequences if this continued. Conversation ends, we go on to have a very enjoyable evening.

This poor child...

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Submitted by newcstep on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 12:13pm

Sitting at dinner last night, SD is noticeably upset. DH asked her a few times what was wrong and received shrugs and short answers. Finally he pushed a bit harder:

DH "Come on SD, you look upset. You know you can talk to me about anything right?"
SD "Mommy said I can't tell you..."
*alarm bells go off*
DH "Sweetie, you can ALWAYS talk to me. What's wrong?"

Two separate meals on St. Patty's Day

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Submitted by newcstep on Wed, 03/15/2017 - 12:20pm

So Friday is St. Patrick's Day. Which has traditionally for our family meant corned beef and cabbage for dinner. One of my favorite meals YUM! This year St. Patty's Day happens to fall on a Friday of Lent. For all of you practicing Catholics that means no meat. While we are religious, DH and I are not Catholic and do not observe this Catholic tradition. SD8 however, is being raised Catholic by her BM. (I'm sure you can all see where this is going.)

ROFR- Similar Experiences?

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Submitted by newcstep on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 8:46am

The the topic was brought up on another blog of Right of First Refusal, and it got me thinking about some of the issues we've faced with this. I'm curious if others have had similar experiences.

First to define ROFR: My understanding is that the essence of this clause is if parent A cannot care of for the child during their custody time, they must offer the child to parent B before finding alternate care. DH's CO does not specify a time limit. Does this apply to overnights, a few hours while he is at work, or just 10 minutes while DH has to run an errand?