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Steps have no compassion

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Submitted by No Name on Mon, 09/30/2024 - 2:56am

I had major surgery.  Steps were well aware.  They made no contact during this time.  Less than one week after my surgery my parent passed away.  Again, nothing from the steps, not even a text message.  I am so sad, all I do is cry over my loss.  In addition to my steps not reaching out, only one sister in law on my husband's side did.  This hurts so bad.  I am always there for everyone else.  What bothers me about my in laws is that they seem to remain loyal to my husbands ex.  We have no children together.  Would that have made a difference?  What do I do moving forward?

Texting The Ex

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Submitted by No Name on Fri, 05/21/2021 - 6:54pm

Does anyone look at their spouses phone and their text messages?

I have not been on here in over a year and just realized that DH and I just had a huge fight over something that I blogged about over a year ago...him and his ex texting.

He had her blocked and today he unblocked her because she called him at work.  According to him she was concerned because he was not responding to her text messages.  Although he tells me "they" were concerned.  I said that makes no sense because you are responding to your adult children's text messages just not your ex wife.

BM and DH Texts, texts and more texts

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Submitted by No Name on Fri, 02/14/2020 - 6:33am

The texting always initiated by BM has been going on for months.  Even the therapist told DH to stop responding.  He has not.  If he doesn't respond oldest SD texts and wants to know why he hasn't responded. His phone is glued to him these days, never was before.  I can't sleep at night.  He wants to know what is wrong.  How many times can I possibly tell him to cut her out of our lives.  He responds that it will calm down after the upcoming wedding.  I notice that he is not telling me that it will stop.

Called DH’s bluff

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Submitted by No Name on Sun, 02/09/2020 - 5:23pm

DH again says you should go to the dinner with me and support me.

I said when the skids begin to treat me with respect and are not rude to me then I will go.  I said besides they do not invite me.  
I asked if they included me in the invite knowing that they did not.

DH says he will call and ask if he can bring me.  I said OK, make the call.  DH says I will.  I said call now so I can hear.  Then he says well dinner is at 5:00 knowing that I work until 5 and SD is 2 hours away.

I am sick of doing this dance.

 

Here we go again

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Submitted by No Name on Sun, 02/09/2020 - 4:31pm

Skids were invited for dinner at our house.  DH couldn't get an answer and we needed to go to the market.  While we are at the market he got a text that they weren't coming.

DH is so concerned about mending fences.  How are you supposed to do this when you graciously invite them for a meal and they can't be bothered.  
Well I guess the skids and BM came up with a plan.  They invited DH to one of their houses for dinner.  I am sure BM will be there and I am equally sure that I am not invited or welcome.