I wish I found this site earlier. This is my first entry, and I apologize if this is going to end up a long post. I am just happy that I found an outlet, because for the past 4 years I have been keeping so much inside unable to find others in a similar situation! Im a SM26 (not officially, yet) BF and I have been together almost 4 years, living together 3 1/2. His daughter just turned 5, so I've been around basically her whole life. I am fortunate that BM and I have a good relationship.. there has never been any fighting or big disagreements, and I have to remind myself of that sometimes when she aggravates me. My issue is, she's a "Facebook Mom". She is a GREAT mom on Facebook to everyone else, but to the ones who know her (like us), I wouldn't consider her a good mother. Never plays with SD, never takes her anywhere fun, never reads bedtime stories. Every time she has SD5 she is having "football parties" and drinking with SD5 in the house. If you were to ask my SD what mommy does at home she will tell you that all she does is "drink beer". Fine, whatever. Drink beer. But at least wait until she goes to bed! She starts drinking at 6pm when she gets home from work, and never plays with SD. She will try and be SD's friend even though she is 5, and have her join in on the party sometimes taking shots of WATER. Im sorry, but I do not think that a 5 year old should know how to do "CHEERS!" and chug back a shot of water.

We have split custody, right down the middle. We are fortunate enough that we do not pay child support and have a very good agreement (when it is followed). She is in Kindergarten now and even though we are supposed to pay exactly HALF of everything, we end up paying more ( a whole lot more in fact) of her schooling, which I get it, BF owns his own business and is very successful, you can't put a price on her education and we wanted her in the best school in town, so in order for her to go there we knew we were going to have to pay some more than BM. Although, there are some additional charges that just drive me up the wall!!! Every Friday is pizza day at school, You are supposed to pay at the beginning of each week for that Friday, or at the beginning of each month if you are paying in advance. BM NEVER remembers to pay for pizza, and a few months ago actually tried to pay $3 with a check on a friday morning. It has gotten to the point now that the school doesn't even ask her for money, just knows that I will be coming in with it next time and paying in full. Also, she has extra circular activities that the school offers on certain days that we also pay for, because BM never does. Besides tuition, I have already spent $40 so far this month, and its only the 11th. :sigh:

And last but not least, our custody agreement states that we alternate holidays each year. Last year, we had SD for all holidays, including Thanksgiving, Christmas EVE, and New Years, which means that this year is BMs turn. All of a sudden, BM "doesn't remember" the agreement being that way, although I've been around 4 years and it hasn't changed. Now she says its unfair to steal her for every holiday and wants us to take her on New Years. Last year, BF and I had our SD5 along with her two friends for New years. Dont get me wrong, i love my SD like she was my own, I always want to hangout with her, but since we had a CRAZY NYE last year, I would love to just get away with my BF this time. Is it wrong of me to get upset about this? :sick: