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So pissed at DH and BM right now!

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Submitted by notmycircus on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 8:05am

DH and I have had skids for every holiday this year because BM and her new partner have had plans that didn't include skids. On Halloween, we were moving and DH told BM he couldn't take the skids that weekend because at their young age they would just be in the way. BM's response was that she was going out of town so he'd better pick them up, or they would be stranded at school! DH did end up getting the skids, and they were completely in the way, climbing in and out of the moving truck, underfoot when we were carrying heavy furniture, it was hell. This is not our year to have them over the holidays, but BM emailed DH a month ago saying that she wants them to spend the week with us. DH and I were planning on using that time to renovate the family room in our new house, so he told BM no, we would have them from the 26th to the 28th as per the CO. Well of course we hear nothing from BM until yesterday, when she informed DH that he had to take the skids until the 2nd, because she has made plans. And DH gave in to her!!! There goes all my plans. Why should BM's plans override my own? I am going to disengage during this week and continue with my plans to paint and fix up the family room, and he can take care of his own kids. As it stands now, I only have 1 day off without skids for the holidays, and it's not a holiday for me to have to get up early with them, and take care of them all day long. DH is a good man, but he's a Disney dad, and he expects that I will prepare all meals for them, and I have to remind him to put them to bed or they would be up until 1am. So frustrated right now.

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 8:10am

Yep, let him do ALL of the parenting for his kids. Everything.

He may think twice the next time, knowing that you are not going to lift a finger to help him.

I get that they are his kids, but when a parent re-marries, they have a partner to consider.
And the fact that BM just tells him what he is going to do? How irritating.

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Submitted by Evil stepmonster on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 8:34am

I had this exact problem. Well, I finally said no..this is my kid free time if you want your kids then you take care of it all. I'm keeping my plans, and I'm not getting out of bed or out of my pj's because Inbred wanted to go to the damn bar and you're a free babysitter. He started saying no after a few times of that.

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Submitted by notmycircus on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 9:32am

That is hilarious! That is my plan, I'm just going to go about my time off as if they are not there. There is so much I want to get done over the holidays, and I'm going to take the time to do it, and perhaps take a break for myself, maybe a day all to myself, in my room watching Netflix marathons lol.

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Submitted by Hanny on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 2:27pm

My daughter is going through this right now with her BF. He let's BM dictate when he can see them, there is no set visitation. And so far the BF will not stand up to BM and say 'no we have plans that day'. I'm not sure how long my daughter will put up with this. BM will let him have then when she wants them out of her hair and will even tell him what he can do with them. I guess BF was complaining to my daughter the other day that he cannot do something he wants to do with his family because BM won't let him, and my daughter's response was 'must suck to have a wife'. They are divorced, but might as well not be!

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Submitted by oneoffour on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 7:48pm

DH COULD turn around and make noises like "Well it seems you dump the kids with me whenever you want and take off for all the holidays you can muster. So I am thinking of taking you back to court for full custody and you can pay CS. Then you can have all the free time you want and I get to raise our kids the way I want. So find a lawyer and let's see what happens. I have documentation for the last 12 months."

I bet she will reel herself back faster then you can spit.