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SD9's birthday fiasco

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Submitted by notmycircus on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 10:46am

DH has decided that since SD(stb9)'s birthday is Christmas day that we should have her party before Christmas. We have done this for the past 3 years, so it's expected. What is not expected is that he made a unilateral decision that it was to be this Saturday. Normally it would be the first weekend in December that we have the kids so the 11th. Since DH decided this without me, I decided to let him figure out the details, inviting friends, food, cake, party favours, gift etc. Well, it's now Wed. and nothing has been done. No friends are invited, no meal plan thought out, no games, no gift. Basically nothing has been done, besides the cake, and only because my sister designs (beautiful) cakes, and she wanted to give SD9 one as her gift for her birthday. So do I sit back and watch the shit show, or do I roll up my sleeves and make sure that this party is not a bust? I would normally help DH with everything, but lately he's been procrastinating so many things, and expecting me to pick up the pieces, that I guess I am thinking of teaching him a lesson. But I also don't want it to be awful for SD9, she is a very kind hearted, sweet girl who deserves a nice party. What to do?

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Flying.Purple.Step.Monster's picture

Submitted by Flying.Purple.S... on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 10:48am

Who plans a birthday party over a holiday weekend? People are traveling and won't be available to go?

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Submitted by Ljcapp1 on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 10:55am

I-m so happy Exactly.
I hate to be an a-hole here, but I wouldn't help and I would suggest that he change the weekend to the 11th like you said because people are not home this weekend. Plus it's too late to invite people now.

No saint's picture

Submitted by No saint on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 10:55am

Agree with notasm. Maybe also ask a few close friends of SD, who you already know will be available, to show up.

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Submitted by notmycircus on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 11:21am

I should have mentioned that we are not in the United States, so this weekend is not a holiday here. I do think that most of her friends will be able to attend, if they are given notice today. It's more the activities and such. I guess since there is a cake so even if it's a quick cake and ice cream party it won't be that bad. I am just disappointed that DH dropped the ball on this. BM does not do B-day parties for SD9 because her birthday falls on Christmas Day. I did buy all of the skids some really cute outfits that they haven't seen yet. I could if worse comes to worse hide SS11's and SD6's and give SD9 hers as a b-day gift. I am going to wait and see if DH manages to save the day somehow though.

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Submitted by twopines on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 12:44pm

Since he easily makes unilateral decisions regarding his kid's birthday, he will be fine without your help.

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Submitted by Stepintime0111 on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 1:04pm

If it were me, I would probably help, especially is she is a nice kid and would be appreciative. I did a lot recently for my skids' 9th birthday (balloons, cake, decorations, favors, etc. my dh is just not a planner and would not think of the extra details. He's good at many things but party planning is just not one of them.