:jawdrop: I have been a step mom for a little over three yrs. now and never knew there were other step parents with some of the same issues. I have 6 BC and 1 SS. I am still trying to figure out what all the abbreviations exactly stand for? My SS BM has only seen him a handful of times since his father received full custody of him and those times were me practically bagging her and offering her gas money even thought she only live 1/2 mile away. regardless I just was seeing if there ever comes a time where I will feel close to my SS like I do with my BC.