Leave. This is the perfect time to do it. He's all the way across the country...Just disappear. Where do you live? I will look up a shelter for you. You do not have to live this way.

It is my understanding that YOU own the house you two live in right? If that is the case, throw all his shit out and change the locks. See if you can find a roommate (I'd recommend either a butch (non-gay) female or super-stacked gay man for a safety in numbers factor). Then file a restraining order that states he can come get his shit if a cop escorts but other than that if he steps within 50 miles of you, he's fair game for snipers. And all the stuff you bought together on loan? See if you can return it, if not, see if you can have someone take over it (like a car, sometimes you can transfer the loan to another person if they want to take over the loan). Regardless, get that snivvling, knivving, man-slore of a douche ninny out of your house and out of your LIFE. Do NOT pick him up at the airport. Do NOT answer his calls. Do NOT allow him into your home. Just have Agent Nutcracker at the gate to serve him with his RO and be done with him. He's a waste of air and a waste of flesh. There isn't a 10 dollar bill worth that shit nor is there a dick worth dealing with that crappola. Get rid of him. You will be much happier, whether or not you have to struggle a bit. When you are buried up to your throat in shit, you have to struggle to get out, or get swallowed up in it. It's NOT worth it. This bro-whore has how many flippin crib midgets from how many exvags? He will not hesitate to knock you up and leave you hangin too. Then you'll have to pay all your bills and take care of a baby too, doubtful you'd get any help from his "I am HeMan" ass. Toss, lock him, drop him.

I agree with all of the other posters here and have told you of my experience with the same type of man. He almost literally murdered me...PLEASE do something. GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION NOW!

File for a restraining order, pack his stuff and leave it outside for him. Change the locks. Just do it. You'll thank us all for the advice later.

PLEASE, please follow the advice the other ladies have offered. They have covered every detail so I have little to add..don't let him back into your life! Call a shelter to find out how to file the RO, go to the local police station and make sure they have a copy. The RO will enrage him, because this type of man does not have any respect for the law or anyone else in the way of what he wants. He blames everyone for everything he doesnt like. Its always someone elses fault. I have been there-but I had children in the house(not his), I wasnt allowed to be alone, I never had the opportunity with him leaving the area. Beaten, raped, and abused in many ways- but when he went after my daughter I found out how badly I had lost my mind by sitting there and taking it for all those months. This is textbook abuse and once you have time to reflect without the "loving" memories and disbelief- you will see it. Find a womens group to meet with and learn! It took counseling with a sexual violence group, group counseling with other abused women and individual counseling on self esteem for a long time for me to see the relationship for what it REALLY was...I read your last post and have been worried about you since, thank you for the update. I had to create an acount just to be able to reaffirm what the other ladies are saying. Do it on faith, for YOURSELF! You will see that you are WORTH it in time!

I'm confused about a few things? Your first blog said that you have six skids and they were living with you in your house and you were having problems paying all the bills. Your later blogs say that you have 2 that visit and you have never met the others? I am understandably confused about this. Is this a new boyfriend who also has a ton of kids? I just need some clarification.

Also, where are the two kids you have custody of in all of this?

Onceuponatime, your first post dated 6/21/12, you stated that your SO had 6 kids with 3 different BMs between the ages of 1 yr - 6 years old. You also stated that at the time they were all staying with you. By 6/25/12 you posted that all but the SD4 & SS6 were now back with their BM (singular, don't know if that was a typo or you don't have your "story" straight)
By 9/11/12 you were posting that your SO had 7 kids with 4 different BMs and that he even possibly had an 8th kid out there (a 13/14 yr old) but he was waiting for a paternity test. You also stated in that same post that the kids were between the ages of 4 yrs - 14 years and that you had never met any of the other SKids besides the 2 living with you.

One of two things is going on here...either you are so out of your mind from substance abuse or these beatings & "choking outs" that you report you are receiving from your SO...OR...everything you are posting is just BS, which I pray for the latter but if so, shame on you for playing with people on this site. It won't be the first time it has happened on STalk but you have people almost screaming advice to you for fear of your safety and if things are as bad as you say they are, you are a fool for allowing this loser in your life.
I've been a an abusive situation much worse than what you describe and yes, low-self esteem plays a role (either already had it or it was beaten into you) in staying initially but really, is having someone to help financially or the fear of being alone worth going through life as you describe.
I truly feel for you if your situation is real but I am having doubts when you feel you can take a couple days to "relax" during what would be the best time to create a plan to get rid of your abuser. If this is real.