SO had his dad pick 3 younger sgirls up from school on Fri, because he was still at work at his day job. Then we both had to work the restaurant Fri nite, my BD8 was at her dads for the long weekend. SO had to work the day job on Sat also and we both had to do restaurant Sat nite. He had to open the restaurant early on Sunday for a special order. He asked older 2 Sgirls to come in early as they work with him on Sundays.
On Sat afternoon in between jobs, he called SD18(at MILS) and told her to just go ahead and go back to BMs early, because he really wasnt going to get to see the younger girls since he had to work the whole weekend(which never happens, was just this weekend) He said since they had to be home at 8a.m on Monday (BM is a stickler for getting the skids back) And since their mom was off on Monday, and since they dont get ANY weekends with BM and since he had to work the entire time anyway (and I now refuse to babysit) He said for SD18 to just take them all home to BM on Saturday.
He and BM do not speak, he hasnt answered a text in 3 years, except once to tell her to stop texting him.
On Sat When SO talked to SD18 she said "lemme call mom and I will call you back." She never called back. Skids ended up staying at MILs. On Sunday, FIL has SD18 drive all sgirls to us at home at 2p.m. (we had assumed they went home to moms) SO and 2 older sgirls have to be at restaurant in 30 min, He ends up taking 3 youngers with him cuz BM still wont answer. I had some errands to run, I did that. I stop by restaurant about 5p.m. per SOs request and stwins are running around the parking lot, bugging customers at the store next door. I go in and help SO with what he needs and a while later SD18 says "mom was just texting me but wont answer now when I ask her if we can come home tonite."
Finally SD14 gets a text from BM that says she(BM) will come to restaurant to pick up youngerskids. SO tells SD18 that "no, you can drive them to your mother and Onebright will stay here til you get back"
He ended up taking the older 2 home at midnite after closing because SD18s car wouldnt start.
After she finally agreed to let her kids come home she sends SO a text " hmmm, so whats the catch?!? why you letting them come home early?!? any other time its a fight with you..."
He has the skids EVERY weekend, Every Fri thru Mon. He does not speak to her EVER. He doesnt reply to text or email EVER. So how can it be a fight? Thats retorical. My hope is that the skids see that MOM DOESNT WANT US and that they quit treating their dad and me,but mostly him, so awful. Will it happen? NO, BM will just fill their heads full of bull and they will continue to think and believe just as she tells them too.