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orange's picture

Submitted by orange on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 11:41am

My dh is not obligated to pay for anything but child support and and full medical expenses unless covered by insurance. Anything else he pays for is because he wants to help out. I can't tell you how many haircuts, shoes, clothes, and school supplies we have paid for over the years. But we did it because we wanted to, even though bm gets support.

My ss13 has played youth football for a number of years and will be playing junior varsity football this next school year. We support him playing as long as its what he wants to do and he keeps up his grades, which he does. Smile Bm sent a text the other night saying that she needed $200 for football for a spirit pack, that includes cleats, workout shorts and shirts, a hoodie, and a bag. I looked it up on the school's website and found all to be true and that the money can be paid in $50 monthly payments with the total being due in July.

Dh texts back that he will pay for half. Bm texts back that SHE needs the money by the end of the school year, May 27. So she is expecting us to pay HER and why the rush bm? I told dh that he needs to pay his half to the school. What do you think? I'm 99% positive if we paid her directly that ss would get what he needs for football, she just wants $100 early for some reason. On the other hand I KNOW if dh says that he is paying the school and not her that she will be pissed. No reason for her to be, but it makes me mad that she is trying to put a rush on us for the money and lying about when its due.

Dummy needs to figure out that this info is posted on the school website, and I also confirmed with another parent that the money is due in July. I don't feel like we should pay her directly. I want to tell her that I know she lied about the date the money is due and that we will pay the school directly. It's not like she can do anything about it but get mad right? Wink

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 11:46am

Don't say anything more about it to her. Pay the school the half you agreed to and send bm a text saying all taken care of, we paid our half.

Let her fume in private. I wonder if she will be ballsy enough to bitch that you didn't pay her. Just play innocent...you asked us to pay half by the end of the school year and we did?

orange's picture

Submitted by orange on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 11:49am

That's what I want Dh to do. There won't be anything she can do about it. She is ballsy and dumb enough to bitch about it too. I am so totally going to play innocent.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 12:11pm

he needs to keep his mouth shut and just go to the school and pay it then provide her a copy of his receipt. Why would he even tell her he is paying them directly.

this is an arguement that can be avoided with one email:

please see attached documentation that shows that I have paid the school directly 100.00 1/2 of BS's installment for the up coming football season.

kiss my ass,
Exhusband and his wife that out smarted your dumb ass again!

orange's picture

Submitted by orange on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 12:57pm

Love it! She won't ever learn to stop lying to us.

Dh won't say anything about it, other than he paid it to the school. It just irks my behind that she wants the money put in her hand. Hell to the no!

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Submitted by bi on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 12:18pm

who cares if she gets mad? let her. if she bitches and moans that you paid the school and not her, she's admitting an ulterior motive. call her out on it and then ignore any more talk about the money. anytime fdh paid for anything to do with extracurriculars or his own pkg of school pics, he always paid the school, NEVER bm.

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Submitted by TASHA1983 on Thu, 04/18/2013 - 2:21pm

My BF ONLY pays what he is ordered to pay via CS every week. Period. BM gets 920.00 a month for ONE kid. That is MORE than enough to take care of everything that entails taking care of an 11 y/o boy.

We KNOW that BM uses that money to fund her "lifestyle" of tanning, nails, new vehicles, etc. skid nor her nor her 4 other kids that aren't my BF never want/need for anything! She is a MASTER manipulator...us tax payers take care of her and her 5 crotch droppings very well!!! :sick:

One time BM texted BF about "helping" to pay for skid to play hockey. BF texted her that is what he pays CS for and guess what??? Shocker!!! Skid never got signed up for it! She never wants to come out of pocket for her kids...it's always about getting someone elses money to pay for shit! My BF pays so she and skid can both go fuck themselves!!! We KNOW how she operates...kids are her cash cows, without them she wouldn't have a pot to piss in until the next schlep came along that got sucked in by her bullshit act!!!