So glad I split finances
I said something to DH about not telling Puke or BM about our anniversary trip. He agreed that was best.
He then goes on about how if it's going to be a few months before Puke visits he thought WE could drive 4 hours and spend the weekend out there to see her. I explained that I would not be going as she would no doubt not want me there but what I was really thinking was that I don't want any part of paying for this. He wants to go then he can pay for it.
He's pretty well blown through his money and payday is a week away. Good luck paying for that little trip.
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Yes I agree, at least he did
Yes I agree, at least he did not tell her about the anniversary trip...its sad when you are so afraid of saying things to the skids, that you have to keep things in secret...I say this as I am right there with you...I think your right that DH should pay to see his daughter not our money lol.I'm not sure why some parents feel guilty for going on a trip...the predicament I ask myself is, I also receive CS I do not expect my ex to take my daughter on a trip, but at least see her...same scenario with your SD, she has a mom, she can take her...I stopped feeling guilty over that one...but in a strange way I still do, but yes... do not feel bad about this at all.
"DH does the "we" thing too.
"DH does the "we" thing too. He is incapable of doing anything for or with his kids alone."
My DH has always been the same, and it caused resentment on all sides. He never developed any deep emotional bond with his kids, and as adults they see him only as a resource, not a person. Someone needs to explain to your DH what the outcome will be if he doesn't spend one-on-one time with his kids while they're young.
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DH is better about spending
DH is better about spending one on one time with Puke. Not sure why he thinks this is a WE thing. She can spend the time with him without me making her feel uncomfortable or getting in the way. More reasons I won't go.