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queen_bethy's picture

Do you think it's wrong, now that SS is old enough to report back things to his mother to fuel the money fit she is in, to put my foot down about him coming here for visits?

He's 15 1/2 now and everytime he comes here, he tells her all about something new we might have that she can't possibly afford. He's also become very sneaky and I'm afraid of him stealing confidential information about our life.

I realize it sounds paranoid, but the two of them are beginning to team up against us. I don't want him here anymore. And since he lives in another state, it doesn't happen often. But when he does come here, he takes inventory, tells his mother and she starts hounding us for MORE MONEY.

Is is wrong for me to tell my husband that if he wants to see his son he can go there to visit? I don't want him here anymore and I'm tired of having my life under his and his mother's microscope. My life is not for his inventory. He made the choice to go back and live with his sick in the head, crazy, welfare mother when he could have stayed with us. But instead he continues to believe her lies and make more misery for us.

I am so mad right now. And my husband refuses to see the light in this. Or am I completely out of line here?

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happy mom's picture

I believe you have the right to express your concerns to your husband. Your husband need to sit his on down and tell him not to do that...taking inventory and stuff. If the talking doesn't work then yes I support you a 100% not to have the son around your house and doing the things he do to report back to his mother. I would be pissed off too, your husband should understand where you are coming from, sit him down and explain how you feel. Unfortunately most biomom is going to do just that, spy on the other family and use the child as the middle person to communicate back and forth. I'm in the same situation, I believe my stepson reports to his mother about everything about me and that's why I feel like my stepson hates my guts for no reason but his mother not liking me. Do you know for a fact that he has been reporting back to his mother? Ask your husband to sit his son down and ask him what do you tell your mom after you visit us?