Sorry it's been a while...
I'm sorry it's been a while since I've been over here. I've been really busy and now I feel bad because I don't want anyone here to think I just post and run! I guess I got a little confortable in my surroundings and now I feel like it's all going down hill again.
We got papers today from biomom. Papers she had no right to file and I feel like I can't breathe and my world is spinning. Hard as I try, I am having a hard time not letting her get to me. I don't understand why she can't just leave us alone. It's like everytime she's going through financial problems, it's suddenly up to us to fix them. She tries to make us pay for the fact that current husband #4 doesn't work enough to pay the bills and she refuses to get a job. My step-son lived with us for 2 years and she did not pay one dime in child support. My husband was so forgiving, he never did anything about it. But when she took their son back to live with her, my husband told her he would not pay child support for the next couple years (until he's out of the house) and if she tried to get him to, he would sue her for back support.
She went in to social services and told them my husband hasn't been paying since October. She also failed to show them the court papers we filed saying he didn't have to. She signed them too and so did the judge. And I'm so pissed that she's doing this again.
Sorry, just needed to vent. No one really needs to comment if they don't want to. I"m just really really pissed.
Beth
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She thinks that you guys somehow owe her something. For what, is the question!! Maybe for just being your stepson's mother. For giving birth, maybe. I don't know. People like this are very, very selfish. They don't care about anybody but themselves!
If you have court papers stating that your husband doesn't have to pay, then she shouldn't have a case! Maybe your husband should file for the back support if she wants to play that way!
I know how it goes. Biomom is always causing some kind of problem and you wish she would just get a clue!
Hang in there!
Dawn
It's frustrating...
Why do we have to continually suffer? And while I know why, logically, emotionally it hurts. I feel like I am always on my guard. Like I have something to protect. I am so afraid of her sometimes it makes me sick to be myself.
I guess I just don't understand why she thinks it's her duty to make our lives so miserable. Why, after all this time, does it have to surface? In 2 years he's an adult. Why now? Why does it matter? Why can't she just leave us alone?
ARG!! I am so mad!!!!!
Beth
Why? Because she can.
Why? Because she can. Like I said, she isn't worried about anyone but herself. I think that the biomom that we deal with has something not quite right in her brain. I am not trying to be funny. I don't know exactly what to call it but I know that she has some kind of emotional problem and she won't get help. She will never leave us alone as long as we have custody of my stepson or until my stepson can start sticking up for himself and what he wants and believes. When stepson is with his mom, he becomes a person with no mind of his own, no spirit!! It is sad.
Dawn