The weekend before last our SS11 came over for the weekend. We went to my mother's trailer and SS11 and my nephew3 got to go trick or treating and to a haunted manion. We had a blast! Also that weekend we went to a wedding on the sunday again had a good time. We live in the country were there is only 3 houses on our street and they are all owned by family. The wedding we attended was just around the corner on a another counrty road with no traffic. Well there was 6 of us going to this wedding including myself, DH, 2 of DH aunts and DH mother. Well we all hoped in the car and drove literally 2 seconds down the road with SD11 on my lap in passenger seat. When we got there SD11 opened the car door while I held her and claimed that she fell out of the car. She was still sitting on my lap and I would never let her fall out of the car, when I said that to her DH heard her complaining so he turned to her and told her that I would have never let her fall out of the car, but her attitude sucks and she needs to stop it! She then yelled back at DH saying you don't care about me and if I fall out of the car. DH told her to get back into the car and asked her what her problem is. He is trying to make things right since she wrote that letter to her dad stating what was bothering her. She then yelled back at DH saying stop referring to the letter every time, move forward and stop bringing up the past. She still wouldn't tell us what was really wrong and wouldn't talk to her dad. So we went into the wedding and just let things go. That evening we were ready to leave at 9:30, but SD11 was up on stage dancing and singing with the other kids at the hall, so we let her stay with her cousins and have fun. She didn't come home til 11pm. Things were great all week till wednesday we got a call from SD11. I answered my husbands phone and tried chatting with her. I can tell she sounded different and asked me to get her dad to call her when he is free, so I told her I would go get him for her. Well then she gets on the phone with DH and tells him that she is upset because he drove in the car to the hall after being drunk. That was at 4pm and he was not drunk because he mother wouldn't have let him drive if he was. I am sure she told him other things that weren't true either. So DH confronted her, then she turned and said are you calling me a liar. He said no, but he was drunk and he has been trying his best to make her happy. After he got off the phone that was it till Thursday at 4:30(which is her regular visiting day) well DH called her to see when he can pick her up and she said that she wasn't coming over. He tried to talk to her again and she started crying saying she couldn't talk now because there was no one there to defend her and hung up. Neither one of us did anything wrong and we even asked her after the last weekend if she had a good weekend and she seemed happy and went home. We don't get it???? We have always been there for her and been good to her. I told DH that I think that she needs to ask us when she can come over now because if she is just going to keep doing this she won't be welcome in our home. SD11 BM will take anything she says seriously and she will get a lawyer that is what she does with men in her life and I don't think SD11 understands the seriousness of her lies. That is fine if she wants to get a lawyer because we have done nothing wrong and we provide a good home for her. She seems to want to hide behind BM. Well she is in for a rude awakening if she comes over this thursday. I will not hold back my feelings anymore. She is acting like a brat and I don't want her coming over for awhile. Maybe we need to say that we need to take a break from her. She how she feels. I have company coming over next weekend from out of town and we were going to take her to pumpkin pathch, but now I don't want her there. I just don't get any of this and it's so hurtful to us. Especially since she won't talk to us