When she has been embarrassed my SIL crawls into her hole under her rock.  Sometimes for many months or even a year or more.

She is out again. This time is different.

The employee owned company her DH has worked at for 20+ years was bought out and he received a multiple 6 figure windfall for his tenure. He is a hard worker and a trusted resource at work.  She is a crook.

They have gone from being on the edge of foreclosure on their home every couple of years, car repossessions, scamming money out of friends and family, etc...  She is the instigator and he is at best willfully clueless to her crap.  Though when someone does bring her crap to his attention he does jerk a knot in her tail and forces her to work out repayment of her crook crap to her victims.  Though he does not ride her on it so after a short time, it all goes back to the usual big words, no action from her.

Anyway, SIL has been calling my DW expressing concern and worry for DW's excessive work hours, is all "I love you so much and care about you, blah, blah, blah......"  My wife is showing signs of her historic "Maybe this time she will stay a good person" cycle with this latest version of her sister.

My DW got them in as clients with a very good investment advisor. The same one DW researched, screened, and has worked with in managing retirement investments, etc... for my MIL, and for my DW's aunt.  Both who are big $ victims of SIL.

SIL was recently able to con her way into a job as a teacher;s aid at their small town school district. How is beyond me. The whole town knows that she is a POS.  She had this same job about 15 years ago and walked away form it for a higher paying job as a home health care worker for the elderly. She got fired from that job for not caring for her clients, sitting in their home raiding their food, and watching cable TV.

This is the POS every parent wants working with their children. (Sarcasm)

How soon a POS forgets or re-plasters their POS status.  A POS forehead tattoo should be mandatory for these people.  So others will always be forewarned, but mostly so the  POS can never ignore their own nature and POS status.

Yesterdays SIL call to my DW is how much DW is missed, and to invite DW for a family ladies night at Trans Siberia Orchestra the Monday after TG.  Of course I was supportive and told DW she should go.  Her MO on these types of things is to to ask me if she can go. I always tell her she does not need to ask and to absolutely go visit your friends, family, etc.....  Neither of us have ever taken issue with the other taking some "me time" or having visits with friends and family without the other.

This time.... my mental words did not match the words that came out of my mouth.

Instead of being supportive, I wanted so much to ask why anyone would come to the call of a POS crook or waste one penny of their own money having anything to do with SIL even if she is family?

Fortunately, my brain was able to override my mouth and I said what I have always said. Though this time I did not "feel" it.

I really don't like having to bite my tongue or this feelings over facts thing. Though for DW, as frustrating as it is, I am happy to preserve her feelings regarding this suspicious invitation from the POSSIL.  POSSIL!! I like that. I think I have a new monicre for my SIL.

POSSIL may no longer be a broke POS, but she will always be a POS none the less.

Grrrrrrr!