This weekend has been a dramatic improvement. SD has only picked up the phone twice to call her BM. Neither time to tattle. We all were at the park as a family for about two hours I stayed longer so they had family time. When we got back everyone had there own space. My SO worked on his homework in SD room partly for the quite (SS 9 and BS 4 playing upstairs other SS already done with his because he did it Friday when he got home as per house rules) partly to make sure SD did her homework. We all ate dinner together. SD had asked to cook and we let her make taco spaghetti. I then brushed BS teeth and gave him his bath. (I didn't even ask when the last time Ssons and SD last bathed) Then I laid BS down to sleep.

All this is a vast improvement. Except every time she talked to BM it was so loud I heard Everything she said, ("Yes the demons still here, no she's mostly left me alone.") and the like. At the park my SO put his arms around my waist or would lean into kiss me. She just had to come over and ask hey dad come see this or Come push Her brother and my son and her on tire swing. Right till they left. (He did kiss me then and even though he couldn't see I saw her glare and I said nothing)

Before they got home I cleaned up the house some. Cleared and did dishes and a few loads of laundry. The homework time was So quite the boys eventually got on the tablets and My son got on ABC mouse to play. (There was no hitting except one accidental hand flailing smack to the face from SS to BS which was quickly apologized for) Till SD cooked dinner and used virtually every dish.

As far as the hygiene part I Will instill some cleanliness in the boys that are in our house. My son knows not to argue about washing hands hair or teeth. He smells clean most of the time.

My SS15 may not always smell like roses but he at least he cares about his hygiene. His last class at school is gym and he almost always showers at school or as soon as he gets home. The first day he came home and smells to high heavens I said SS you smell like a wet St. Bernard. He jumped in the shower and VERY purposely came out to very dramatically put on deodorant in front of me. I laughed and we joke about it sometimes. He'll say the St. Bernard left the building.

The Skids were not quite and kept thundering up and down the stairs which kept my son way up past bedtime but he was eventually asleep. I washed myself up. Then I went to lay down and SO asks what's wrong? I have to be to work at 5am it's 11:30 nothings wrong. "Want me to come to bed?" You can. He jumps up. He has spent all day with the kids. SD is sleeping on the couch tonight and not her room again because she is to heavy to fit comfortably on her bed (I'll be making damn sure she has one by next weekend)

She comes into use the bathroom upstairs so she doesn't have to use the one downstairs. She was already told not to thunder up and down the stairs and she knew it would wake up the 4yr old again. As she left her dad asks her to shut the door. She turns and flatly says no. (We have a leave the doors open policy except at homework and bedtimes.) He repeats the command. She this time definitely hands on hips turns stares right at him "No." I say if you won't shut it I will. ..... If I hadn't said it would she not have turned on me like a rabid dog I don't know? I said it shut the door and she shouted through the door. "I'm not jealous or possessive of my dad your just a bitch." he called back through the door just go to sleep knock it off. The name calling didn't bother me so much as the conclusion she read his text memessages we texted earlier when she didn't want me to sit next to him on the couch and it was obvious she read it.

It kept me up. I haven't really slept and I found out the SKids will be here till Tues. this week. There BM went on some road trip. Why is it that one little comment made be so angry? Angrier than all the other stupid little stuff she did this weekend?