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Teenage step son from hell!

sadstep1's picture

My husband and I have been together for a total of 7 years. We have a child of our own together. Unfortunately, he has a nightmare from a previous marriage that has to be dealt with every other week!

The ex-wife is so bitter about their divorce that she uses their son as a pawn to make our lives a living hell. She brainwashes this kid to do and say bad things at our house.

We tried to get him out of that situation with the nasty mom. It took us 4 years and about 50k for an ignorant judge to say he stays with the mom. Well, let me tell you, the judge is a f__king idiot! The courts witness, a clinical psychologist of 37 years told the judge after 2 years of counseling all of us that the child would be damaged as an adult if he remained with the mom. He also said the child was the most manipulative kid he had seen in a long time.

After a few months of being pissed at the judge for making the wrong decision, I'm now glad that he left the kid with the mom. She has him so brainwashed I don't think any amount of counseling could help him. Plus he lies so much that I don't trust him. He has a violent streak that scares me enough to never allow my child to be with him unsupervised. Ever! This kid just recently was arrested for 5 counts of verbal assault. He threatened to kill 5 other kids at his school! And what do you know, he got little more than a slap on the back of the hand. I mean, WTF is wrong with the justice system in his county?

The ex-wife is such a piece of crap that she can't leave us alone! She actually kept doctor bills for a year and then went to child support services and falsely claimed my husband was in Contempt of Court for unpaid medical bills. What so f'ed about this is she owes us money for a doctor bill we already paid that she refuses to pay her portion of. Did anything happen to her? Nope! Then child support services reviewed the current child support to see if there was a significant variance for an increase and thankfully there wasn't! She was pissed and even argued with the DA over it! LOL! But what is funny is that the last time the worksheet was determined, she lied about the actual work related childcare expense. I'm talking $1400 over what she actually pays and she had her nasty lawyer add extra income that was never earned to my husband's wages! Well all she did was cut her nose off to spite her face! She was being paid way to much child support and now that my husband's makes more money, she will never get an increase because she padded the worksheet so much with that childcare that she doesn't use anymore. Oh, by the way, this kid is almost 14 years old and she tried telling the DA she still uses daycare!

Now that she didn't get a CS increase, she's using the kid to cause trouble at our house! I have gotten to the point where I keep a voice recorder on me whenever it is just me and him and my husband isnt there. That kid lies so much and has already told lies about me and my husband that I'm afraid of what he will do if I don't have evidence of some kind to protect myself from his lies.

I'm counting down the days when the ex and that nasty step child are out of our lives forever!

Comments

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

Yep. Battery is actually touching or striking. An Assault can be a threat so yes there are such things as verbal assaults.

So_Annoyed's picture

Be HAPPY, very very HAPPY that skid did not come live with you FT. You need to disengage and let your DH handle the skid and BM, because that is HIS problem.

Acratopotes's picture

BLock BM from contacting you ever and disengage from the horrible skid.... DH can deal with that lol

Keep on recording and keep on doing what you are doing, if BM is happy going off at a judge... good for you, DH should keep his side clean and pay according to CO.... nothing more and nothing less...

you have 6 years to go.... hopefully skid will stop coming age 16

thinkthrice's picture

Did the Girhippo clone herself and become your DH's ex-wife?

Because I could have written word for word the exact same court antics.

Only saving grace is that Chef KNEW in NYS the BM almost always gets custody regardless and never bothered throwing money at the system

BE VERY GLAD you didnt get custody! Maybe he will PAS out. If your DH has made a habit of giving in to SS and decides not to any more, the skid will most assuredly PAS out. Usually though, the BM cant stand lying in her own filth that she created and will want to dump SS on your doorstep if he turns violent toward her.

Both of my SSs are such nancy-mommy boys that I doubt they'd ever turn on her so Im lucky in that respect. Even though she deserves karma for her brainwashing, fully enmeshed PAS.

sadstep1's picture

Well, now that my DH knows he won't get any credit for paying over and above child support, not even so much as a thank you for helping out, the ex wont be receiving anymore help from him if the SS goes to jail again.

I have no doubt that the ex's karmic retribution will be coming in the form of the monster she created. The SS is a nancy-momma's boy and I have no doubt he will be living with his mama well into his forty's.

I am so thankful, with every fiber of my soul, that the SS didn't come to live with us.