So anyone who has read my posts know that my BF's BM is a drug addict who passed out and burnt her kitchen down, and therefore got evicted by her landlord as she had uninstalled all the smoke detectors in her house. After this, Children's Aid had her sign over temporary custody of SS2 to BF and I. He has been here for probably a little over a month? BM also has another son, SS9, who is not biologically my BFs but he raised him for 5 years and as his BD is not present, looks to my BF as his dad. Because of this, when BM lost custody SS9 went to live with BMs mom, his grandma.

Today our caseworker called BF and told him that BM's mom is really overwhelmed by having SS9 living with her and can't handle the stress anymore. The caseworker asked BF if we would be open to SS9 coming to live with us too. Without skipping a beat, BF dutifully agreed and on July 13th we're going to have a meeting to figure out the details. This of course, I was informed of - not asked.

Oh my god, I literally wanted to cry when BF told me this. Not only do we not have enough ROOM for another body (we only have a 2bdrm house!), right now BF is the only one working and that's another mouth to feed. I've been trying to get a job because I'm SICK of staying at home with SS2 all the time, atleast he has daycare 4 days a week - BUT, school will be out for SS9 so what ... I'm supposed to stay here and watch him too, what happens when I get a job? BF's response when I asked - "Well since you haven't gotten a job yet, I could just start working more so we could afford for you to stay at home with them & I'll just take care of everything financially." .... UM WHAT?! I WANT a job. I NEED out of this house and away from your kids. I WANT my own money, I hate having to rely on you for everything.

This seriously just has disaster written all over it. Neither children listen to me at all, SS9 thinks he's a gangster 16yr old. SS2 I swear has ADHD. And BF just lets them run rampade because "they're going through so much right now, the last thing they need is a prick for a dad." Fine, then instead they'll get a BITCH of a step-mom. Ugh. I'm at my wits end, I seriously just want to rip my hair out. I was pissed off enough this morning with SS2 alone without BF dropping this news on me too.

I guess on the bright side BM has been in detox all week so she's taking the steps necessary to regain custody. I don't necessarily think she should get custody back because clearly she's a failure of a mother (with two bratty kids to prove this) but just even for her to take them for ONE DAY A WEEK would seriously make my life.

Time for a beer, it's 5 o'clock somewhere.... ugh...