After all the times BM left her kids when she did't have to from when she moved away to times when she had a day off, you would think i would knw by now that she will get out of seeing them as much as possible. Yet it still surprised me knowing she had tomorrow off and so did the kids (memorial day), but she chose to drop them off today anyway. And of course she was a total ass tis weekend with them. The youngest SS11 has lost his cell phone among other thigs many times both at my house and at hers, but mostly here. I attribute this to the fact that he lives here-he has school here-he has friends here and he has a life here! He simpy visits at his mom's house for 48 hours a week. So he comes home with his cell phone, which he has been keeping at his mom's per her request. I couldn't care less where it is. Anyway, 5 minutes later she calls him and tells him he has to give it to us to hold because "he loses it here". What a bitch, she can't just spend the weekend with her kids and focus on them. Apparently she will always find a reason to talk sh** about me an DH or "our house over here". Whatever-I asked him if he wanted to have his hone and ssured him it is okay, but he sarted to say "my mom..." then cut himself off and said, "I don't trust myself with it. I will lose it".

So my question to you is...should I say something else to him and reassure him it will be okay for him to have it? Should I explain that he loses it here more because he IS here more? Should I ask him if his mom said he couldn't have it here? Or should I just keep trying my best and doing my best and not worry about what sh&& comes out of her mouth? I am afraid I may do more harm than good if I force the issue or even bring it up. Please help...