the BM had to try to ruin it on the last day of my wonderful week. I had to work hard, had two exams and had a terrible outside-of-home week, but at home it was lovely. All three of my SS were being rally nice and so was my bio-son. The oldest, who has been concerning melately, was very talkativre all week (he never talk-ever) and even asked if I would make some cookies for his party at school! Amazing, the kid who didn't want anything from me, not even his laundry actually asked me for something. Then my 16SS go his permit-OMG OMG OMG, now I have two in the house with driving permits!!! He was his usual talkative, pleasant self. And best of all my SS11 told me he loved me on Thursday. He thaked me for dinner and for making his lunches and a bunch of other stuff and then hugged me and said he loved me. How cool is that! Yay, love them all too very much.

But then, on Friday, I am at work, I have the ickyest, very very sick patient to handle all day and BM texts me. She wants to make sure that SS16, who is grounded, takes his phone to her house for the weekend. I said well, he's grounded (she knows this) and DH has it. So she's like well, just make sure he has it. She says she has no house phone and wants one there so she can call if she's gone. I said hey, no problem, I will make sure SS11 has his phone and that should solve the phone issue.

And so it begins-she starts in about "are u telling me I can't have the phone I pay for at my house (actually her parents pay for it). So I'm like, "no, DH and I are just trying to set rules for these boys and make them adhere to the consequences we ALL agreed on. We want to raise them right and make them pay for their actions, that's why he's grounded. But hey, if you don't want rules and consequences enforced at your house, fine, you can have the phone." She got all pissy and grouchy, but whatever, she can't stand when I point out what a failure of a parent she is. So DH came home and i told him what happened and showe him all the texts. He is usually very calm and mellow and hates confrontation, but this time he got pissed! He sent her a huge long e-mail and came to my rescue. Yay for DH! So she wrote back and actually apologized for her rudeness and has been a peach all day today-go figure-crazy wman.