BF and BM had a meeting yesterday at the school regarding SS3. I didn't go because I had to work and i think BM planned it that was (it was scheduled for noon) Any way, I told BF to go and stand his ground. This is all hear say (since I wasn't there but i believe it) BF did 90% of the talking, BM had little to add. BF told the teachers all the stuff WE were doing for SS3 to try to help him and they loved every thing he said. They said we were doing everything right. BM didn't comment or have anything to add.

Now SS3 had been diagnosed with Autism but BF and I had our doubts that he actually had it. The teachers asked if they had ever had him tested for anything else. They were thinking that he might have something called Dandy Walker Syndrome instead. Which I looked it up it's something that happens at birth generally in problem pregnancies which his was - it's fluid on the brain that messes with his motor skills and ability to learn. Also makes him extremely irritable! But most importantly it's treatable unlike autism.

Here is where the drama comes in. BM went home and looked it up too. When called BF crying because her baby was dying! She read all this bad stuff and had reached the conclusion that SS3 was going to die because of this thing - that they don't even know if he has. BF told her to calm down, set up an appointment and get him tested - Then worry if he has it. Assuming BM and I read the same stuff if you read the details it says that it's considered to have a high morality rate because it usually goes undected in children with mild cases. Which means children with mild cases LIVE normal live long and some what normal lives. If he had it bad I would think they would know about it.

Oh and she found out about the doctor check-ups and said that she would schedule them and BF didn't have to go, but he said he wanted to go (if SS3 throws a fit she would just walk out again). After all we still have concerns about SS5 - you know BM's other child that she forgets she has because there is SO much wrong with SS3. And we have a plan to bring up those concerns so that BM can't deny there is an issue. I got it on video! (with BF permission of course)

And then there is me....

BF had so much to talk about yesterday and I was so proud of him for speaking up - and ignoring BM completely in the meeting. I have finally got it in his head that he doesn't have to be her friend to co-parent with her. He doesn't need to know how her day is going or what her plans are this weekend. He doesn't need to ask for her input - if she has input she can put it out there when she has the chance.

So I didn't have the heart to tell him that I was not ok. My Anxiety is peaking and my Narcolepsy is in full swing. I cried during 'The Voice' last night, which I tried to hide and then he thought it would be cute to scare me and I nearly jumped out of my skin and screamed louder than I ever had (he likes to scare me a lot) It took a good 30 minutes for me to slow my heart rate back down. I am making some phone calls today seeking help but I'll wait and tell BF later about my issues.