I think BM might be dying, or thinks she is dying, or want people to think she is dying based on some odd conversations with SS7 and some observations.

She has always been a little dramatic and has a need to be center of attention so it's hard to tell which it is. DH and I noticed about a year and a half ago that BM was starting to rack up the medical bills, because she tried to make DH pay for some of it 'by mistake' thinking that it was for SS5 but a call to the hospital proved that it wasn't and for obvious reasons they refused to say who it was for, but the 'bill' that BM showed us, which did not break it down my person, was for $200 bucks after insurance. (FYI we were not 'spying' on BM's medical history just trying to figure out how SS5 racked up a big bill like that with BOTH DH and BM have insurance)

She also started showing up to drop offs with band-aids and bruises from blood work or limping. She couldn't make an appointment for SS7 this past winter because she was 'having surgery' when we dropping sKids off at her house she was moving around slowly but it didn't stop her from picking up SS5. A few weeks later she admitted to DH that she has 'Genetic Lupus'. I think it concerned DH a little but more from the stand point of the kids. Though BM already seems withdrawn more than usual from the kids. She admitted to getting 'spinal blocking' done but having to go back for more.

I know people that have Lupus but are still alive and doing well most of the time. But every time I see BM lately she is oddly quiet, doesn't argue like she used to and moves slower. Basically she acts like a person that is sick or not feeling well. She also however lies like crazy so I don't know what to believe.

The other day I was hold my cat, how is very old and SS7 asked me when he was going to die. I shrugged and said some day, but he is health for now, just old. He asked if it made me sad to think about it and I said no, i no that I can't keep him forever and someday he will leave me. i will cry and I will miss him. I added that 'mommy' will always love him. - yes I baby my cats! SS7 then launched into this weird rant about how when your mom dies they don't really leave you but they watch over you from heaven. Um... okay. was my response. Still not sure how we went from my old cat to a mother dying.

SS7 has made a few other comments along those lines and I asked DH if he though BM was dying. At least she hasn't said anything to DH about it, just the Lupus comment. But she loves sympathy and I could see her putting on a show like this just to get DH to feel sorry for her.

Has your BM ever faked a major ailment like this? Do people to that? Or could she really be that sick?