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Submitted by skye22 on Wed, 10/25/2006 - 8:54am

You know what really pisses me off. My mother in law. No matter what I do for stepson, its not good enough! I am sorry that I don't have the same bond with stepson as I do with my bio son but why is it her job to constantly compare the two!!! I could compare too!! In my opinion SHE favors stepson, and that is fine with me. So why does she feel so high and mighty to judge me. Examples I could let her have a peice of my mind. My sons baptism, she got "timmy" a whole bunch of presents. For my sons birthday, "timmy" got a few presents too. Her statement "I just didn't want him to feel left out." Fine, not a big deal. Last night "timmy" has a birthday party and I was interested to see if she reversed that same logic back on my son. NOPE!!! We tell her that we are pregnant again. "well I wonder how this is going to affect "timmy." Holidays - should all revolve around "timmys" schedule. The thing is that while she is sooooo busy trying to overcompensate with stepson their are other people and kids now that are also important. Anyone have ideas or suggestion becasue this whole situation is really starting to eat at me.

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Submitted by happy on Wed, 10/25/2006 - 9:20am

First of all "timmy" will manage as all the other kids in the world have. We are not living in Leave it to Beaver days.
IMO she may not even know she is irritating you with her over compensation for "timmy".. I think you should sit her down and talk to her about how you are feeling, and if she knows she is doing it I think I would let her have it. She is treating your child as though he is less important which is not fair to the child. Your child is a part of her son as well as "timmy". I think she needs to have a reality check. She either needs to treat them the same or maybe you guys should take the upper hand and let her know that until she is fair that she will not see any of them. Skye22 this is not only about your children with her son but its about you too. You have to be strong and healthy to give your unborn child a healthy womb, and by her stress its not helping that little guy or gal in your belly have the healthiness it needs. I wish you all the best. You can talk to her and tell her. She who judges will be judged on her actions as well.