Last week, when SS9 was over, SO wanted to take him outside so he could play with his new remote control car. I didn't want to go, because I wanted some alone time, but SO kind of copped an attitude when I told him I didn't know if I wanted to go with them (I should have just told him I didn't want to go). So I got dressed and went with them. While we're outside, SO tells me that he wanted to take SS9 outside because he didn't want SS9 to go home and tell BM that he didn't do anything but stay in all day. It annoyed me (I can't place my finger on it, but what do you guys think is the reason?). I told him that he shouldn't be doing things just to please her, that he needs to be doing things just because he wants to spend time with SS. (which in hindsight sounds harsh) Fast forward to this weekend. It slipped SO's mind that this is Easter weekend. I have decided that I am not going to go out of my way to be the planner anymore for holidays, since I feel that SO needs to become less dependent on me and take the initiative. I told him that he should call BM to see if she had any plans with SS because she has a house and last year she planned a Easter egg hunt in the backyard. He didn't want to call her, and said that if she had any plans, she should call him. Turns out that when he picks up SS today, BM told him to bring him home early tomorrow, b/c her father is visiting and he will be leaving tomorrow. SO comes home and gets upset about it, saying she told him last minute. I don't get why he's upset when we didn't have plans to begin with: why not let ss enjoy himself at his moms? I asked SS today if BM was planning to do the Easter egg hunt like last year, and he said she was. So I don't get why SO gets upset at the small things, when it's not like he was planning to do anything special with ss anyway. It kind of annoys me because I think it might be guilt parenting, but I have no idea how to address it.