Well, step kid is 14. My hub has had joint custody now for over 1 year.. before that he had her every weekend. So its been 3 years, and crap keeps getting worse. Aside from having a cell phone in the house that we never knew about, to now compulsively lieing, failing in school, lieing some more... We buy her birthday gifts that she asks for and the next week she leaves and comes back and doesn't touch the 200$ Nabi she wanted. The BM stated she can't wait until she doesn't have to come over and she won't. I know its brain washing to the fullest.