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weekends... ughhh...

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Submitted by soconfused on Sat, 03/05/2011 - 2:46pm

I dont know how much more i can handle. BM is supposed to take weekends friday after school to sunday 10am. this weekend and last weekend she has stated shes not coming. last weekend turned out she and her husband were sick with the stomach flu. this weekend its cuz they were afraid the boys ss8 and ss6 would get sick and didnt want to chance them coming to their house and getting them sick. so now i get ss6 who is great and doesnt care which house hes at and ss8 who is beyond pissed im guessing at BM but who gets it taken out on. SM!!!! yep i get all the fire not BM. hes yelled at me 5 times this morning, mostly over a movie he couldnt find or describe to me beyond that it was a funny movie, hurt the dog 2 times yelled at my BS 10months old. and then wanted me to punish the 10month old for trying to take one of his baby toys away from ss8. this was just after ss8 yanked a baby toy right out of BS's hands. i'm just stressed and pissed off and to top it all off not feeling 100%.

i just sent DH an email demanding he force BM next weekend to take them or he takes them somewhere else on the weekend. i will do no more than drive them to school and home during the week. am i really that horrible for saying that i dont want him when he treats me like this

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Sat, 03/05/2011 - 3:49pm

Yep...crappy to be in your situation.

Sounds the not only is the little guy disappointed not being with his mom, but has a high level of energy. SO put him to work doing something that will help you and he'll find interesting.

Do you have silver that needs polished? A bookshelf that needs to be dusted or straightened up?

How about rolling/wrapping money for you. Have him find all the change in the house. There's got to be some tasks he can do to keep his mind occupied and him out of your hair.

I use to sit everyone at the table (including my neices) and pay so much for the forks spoons, knives, then a little more for harder stuff.

If you trust him with scissors, have him look and cut out coupons.....or just have him cut and paste pictures. Give him a list of items you want him to find in magazines and cut them out. An animal, a baby, a car, jello cup....give him a list.

Good luck...you've got stir crazy guy on your hands.

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sun, 03/06/2011 - 8:20am

It's also hard for divorced kids to accept the rejection.....which is exactly what is happening- His mom has no real good excuse this time. Her being too sick yes, but because she is worried they MAY get sick does not register in an 8 year olds brain.

The other thing my counselor told me.......

They will push the buttons to see if indeed you have a breaking point and will stay or will leave. Because what they know is that everyone leaves.

Stay strong and help teach him how to handle the rejection, and how to handle the anger at another person without taking it out on the people around you.