I would be really grateful of some general advice, throughts and feelings about a situation regarding my sd15 and ss17, sd15 came to live with myself and dh about 12 mnths ago on and off. She has really settled down in the last couple of months and touch wood things are going ok. 2 months ago I found out that I was expecting my first baby, me and dh and sd15 are really please. The issue that has cropped up recently is that sd15 and ss17(not dh biological son but always been treated as if he was) were suppose to go on holiday with their grandparents who they have both lived with for majority of their lives. dh and I thought this might be a good opportunity to also have a holiday first one in 3 years and probably our last for a few more years now we have a baby on the way. So we decided to have a week away whilst they were on holiday. we dont have a lot of money and dont get many holidays as I am still training up in my job, however I have just had a payrise and bought sd15 and ss17 new lap tops with my backpay. we found out last night that the grandparents have cancelled the holiday they were taking sd15 and ss17 on. this has put us in a really difficult position as we really want and need a holiday but we cannot possible afford to take both sc with us as just bought them new laptops. I feel guilty if sd15 doesnt come as she hasn't had a holiday this year and also that she lives with us but know that if we took sd15 we would have to take ss17. we have had issues with both sc in the past both drink and smoke and misbehave, it is only in last couple of months that sd15 has started to respect our ground rules and life has been more bearable. ss17 doesn't really bother with either of us and doesnt come up to see dh at all other than bdays and xmas, or when hes drunk and needs a lift home. if we decided to get ourselves into debt and take them on holiday with us I envisage arguments about curfews, drinking and smoking and our holiday being ruined and having got into debt to pay for it. I am really at a loss what to do. My dh is adament that we should still go but I feel that we will get so many arguments and fights about not taking them that it hardly feels worth it. Any advice anyone can give I will be very grateful of!!!