After reading Rags post on equity parenting, I talked to my FH and we made a decision that I would get more involved and discussions with the kids would be held with BOTH of us. So we actually had to discuss chores with my SS7 that night. We called him downstairs and we both sat down and talked to him about not doing his chores. He sat and listened and when I took my turn to speak, he would not look at me!! He kept staring at his father....I couldn't believe it. Every time I said something it was the same thing. It was like I wasn't there!

After we were done talking to him, I asked FH if he noticed what his son did and said yes. I asked "Well why didn't you say something?" and he didn't really have an answer. Later he said that I should have said something and he would have backed me up. I explained that I am always telling him what's going on and then he reacts. I think if actually notices the behavior first and then calls them on it, it holds greater weight than mean ole SM complaining and picking on stuff again.

Still don't know what the issue with SS7 was though....