I'd be upset too. If your dh pays CS that should be used to pay for coats, boots, etc.

Dh and I wouldn't be too upset if it's a one time thing. I'm sure sd has a coat I assume? Maybe she was excited and just ran out. I know my skids would run out in shorts if we didn't catch them. Not anything to get too worked up over unless there is a pattern of sd not dressing for the weather or having essentials.

Not really overreacting. I think it's pretty normal to be concerned whether a child has a coat or not. IMO the child actually having one (meaning one packed in her bag or if not seeing that this kiddo gets one whether used hand-me-down or goodwill if necessary or signing up for one of those programs like 'coats for kids').

The fact a seven year old was dressed in warm pjs wrapped in a blanket at 9pm at night to run from her warm house to your warm car and then run into your arm house and into a warm bed (it is bedtime for seven year old at that time) wouldn't be a biggie for me. She's wrapped in a blanket. She can pull the blanket up around her head like a hoodie, she's fully covered and though 40 degrees is cold a quick dash to a warm car wrapped in a blanket isn't much different than having a coat on instead.

AS I said, for me at least, making sure the kiddo actually has a decent winter coat would be something more to fret over, Did DH ask BM when he got the child if there was a coat in her bag? If there wasn't , he should have asked if BM would grab kid's coat. I fail to believe kid doesn't have a coat (whether packed or not) as a school age child showing up to school everyday in cold winter temps would likely be reported as either a child at risk (meaning they'd help kid get one) or a neglected child (where the home would be investigated).

I mean, you can get as upset as you want over the blanket, but getting upset is going to prove what? Just look in her bags to see if kid has one in the bags and make sure DH spends the day after Christmas finding a suitable coat for the kid (his child) if kid does not. Why spend your Christmas all upset and angry and/or fighting over something you can't control. If BM is an total idiot nothing you can do about it on Christmas Eve at 9pm.

Enjoy the kids and try to have a good time with them. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Perhaps? Admitting that my son has been wrapped in a favorite blanket and PJ's more than once to hop over to Nana/Papa's house ... usually due to outside schedules. Read: Parent's issues. Colorado rural weather.

Early morning when I'd drag BS to my mom's for a few hours while I went to work or sleepy-tired transition back home. My kidlet had winter coats. If I chose, I could strip the child, dress him back up, bundle him in outdoor wear, give him coat/gloves/hat ... or usher him out from warm home to cozy car wrapped in his favorite PJ's and blanket --- let him fall asleep again on bed/couch. I think that is fairly normal.

Now, if the child does NOT have any coats, a trip to Goodwill would be in order !

Maybe I read your post wrong, but I don't see an issue.

Bm "couldn't find" sd winter coat 6 weeks ago. It was already freezing where we live. She said she would find it after they moved at the end of this month,December. Quote from bm "sd won't have a winter coat until after we move at the end of December "!!!!! Bm didn't give 2 craps if sd was warm or not. Dh went out and bought another winter coat for sd. I am so disgusted at bm,she is so selfish. Dh makes sure sd has her coat with her at all times when getting her from bm. This garbage never ends!